Why dont women like nice and good men?

Question

Man some women wouldnt know a good man if he punched her in the freakin face and made her agree!! GOSH!

Answer 1

Most women will say that they want a man who will treat her kind and be good to her, but when they get get one they often take the kindness as a weakness, and women want a strong man. I was with a woman who was once in a very abusive relationship, I always tried to be nice and gentlemanly but after a while it got to the point to where she was always trying to be dominant in EVERYTHING, I would try to be diplomatic and compromising but she wouldn't have it like that, it was her way or no way. She was very spoiled, she was the youngest of 5 girls and her father always let her get her way. But I've found that most women are basically the same way, if you give in to them too many times then they will become belligerent and abusive (not necessarily physically, but certainly psychologically and emotionally). Many will cheat, she got with my stepbrother while I was out out town working (more than once). I jumped on him when I found out then ran him off and told him to never come back. she was glowing when I came back inside. (like I had fought over her, it takes two to tango, she wasn't innocent) But I myself used to be of the same abusive, (yet non-violent) nature when I was married and I had a real good wife (I NEVER cheated though [didn't need to]). But I basically treated her like the couch in the living room, when I need it, it was there, other than that I could care less and when we'd argue I'd get off topic and just start saying things to make her feel bad. When my life left me I swore that I would never treat a woman that way again. (I still miss her after 15+ years) But all I seem to meet now are just plain wrong. All I can really say is be nice, but be tough. Try to be manly without being overbearing. But I don't know, I guess if it ever gets to the point that you're arguing and it looks like she's going to do whatever she wants anyway just to defy you, DON'T "punch her in the freakin face" punch a hole in the wall if you have to or break something (something cheap and trivial) DO NOT break something that she values. (I hope you don't have to resort to this) but when you appologize for it all (as you should) don't be too submissive. no whiney "Oh baby, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean that, please forgive me". Be firm, more like, "Look, I'm sorry, but you just really upset me", then explain what and how she upset you. Make sure you appoligize within minutes of your rage, it may be one of the few times that you have her absolute attention and you'll need it. Be sensible and practical, but if the reason for you getting mad and not wanting her to do whatever it was she wanted was just because "you said so" then you probably should've just let her be in the first place; they want a "take control" man not a controlling one. They also like a smart man, not a smart *ss man. and don't be too smart every so often act like you don't know something that you do and ask them what it means or how it works.
I guess as far as how to treat them try this, If you have sisters, think of the way you father was towards them, both in his kindness and in the way he got on to them (when he was mad). Treat a woman like that.(UNLESS you had an abusive father, then never mind. sorry for you [blocking out the bad part sometimes helps if you can do that]). But still, most women are looking for a father figure anyway (at least subconsciously). Oh, and if you didn't have sisters, treat them at least three times as good but only about a quarter as bad as your dad was to you. I say this because that was about the ratio of generosity and fury between my sisters and I that was gotten my our father.
but don't listen to me if I knew anything about how to treat a woman I'm sure I'd still be married. (or at least have one)

Answer 2

The women who want bad boys are co-dependent. The bad boys they like are abusive (emotionally/psychologically/ maybe even physically). Not the type of women you want dating you, not the type of male friends you want (that's just me talking though - you have to make your own decision). There women out there who do want the nice guy - but they want a nice guy who is confident, mature, knows what he wants and gets it without hurting other people - not the whiny type at all - A real man! Bad boys have the confidence (false sense though) - most don't have the maturity because if they get what they want by hurting other people - usually women, then they are not mature enough to realize that their actions do make a difference in society - they are not real men. Usually just spoiled by mom...thinking they can get whatever they want from women. Just be patient. Do what you like doing. You'll meet the woman of your dreams in places where you like to be - that make you happy. Don't settle for less, and don't get roped into what the masses of society are doing by being an a ss (changing yourself) just to get a chick. It never works out - those guys who are "bad boys" will either end up getting some chick pregnant, or be single and alone till the end (and then they will start being nice after they are bald) - since they are basically just using their looks and mind games. Try holding an intelligent conversation with one of these "bad boys" (for longer than say an hour) - it will usually just end up back on themselves. Do you really want to be like that? Good luck!

Answer 3

We do!

It just takes time for us to realize that we need to quit dating those "bad boys" and find a nice gentleman to settle down with. :)

During highschool, nice guys are usually the close friends. We like assholes because it's like...everytime they treat us nicely, we've received a million dollars (rarely!). But with nice guys, it's about the same as giving us a dollar a day. We take that for granted. And we just keep waiting and waiting for that asshole to treat us better again. Sometimes that doesn't happen so get attached then dumped in the end. :(

:> That's my theory.

Answer 4

We do 2 like nice and good men. It's the mean and bad ones that are rumored to be so good in bed so we get a little distracted. Why don't men want a "good woman"? Some men wouldn't know a good woman if she bit his pecker off and spit it in his face!! GOLLY!!!!

Answer 5

I like a nice and good man. They are the best.

Answer 6

women dont just like nice and good man they also like bad and mean man you know what am saying

Answer 7

Because they can't tell the difference between being a jerk, and being confident. (estrogen mania is what I call it)
They're attracted to confident men, so when they see an a**hole, us guys think "what an a**hole", but females think "wow, that guys is really confident, I like that in a man"

Answer 8

You know what I think. I think the real question is why are you so attracted to girls that dont like you when you are probably lookin in the wrong place anyway. Think on that and get back to me.

Answer 9

He wouldn't be that nice, would he? In any case, unfortunately most women, although they dont like superficial and shallow men, are superficial and shallow themselves. People like hot people.

Answer 10

of course not. because good men don't punch women in their faces, or anywhere else for that matter. unless they want it.