Ok, so I met a guy through a work contact. We hit it off (so I thought). I have had a crush on him ever since. We go to events together, he has invited me to lunch, he has brought me flowers once, we exchange emails on a regular basis. About 4 months into knowing eachother and acting this way, he completely slips that he has a girlfriend. I mean, he really didn't mean to say it. But now I know - he has been with her for 6 years. She is pressuring him toward marriage and he isn't ready. One day I made a comment about her and he says "Yeah, she's a cool girl" I looked at him and said, that is what you say about someone you have dated for a month. You have been with her for 6 years! He said "Well it took me 4 years to even say I love you back". My question is - does it seem like he would ever leave her....perhaps I should ask him out? Perhaps he is only with her for convenience? We seem to have chemistry - but maybe I am just an intellectual relationship for him.....
2006-11-17 11:47:52 · 16 answers · asked by happeyeyes23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ah...girlfriend needs to dump boy for being a dumb a*#! And you my dear need to find someone who is not afraid to share his feelings with the women (yes women!) he loves--especially since it takes him four years to figure out how he feels.
This guys afraid of being alone. You are too good for him. Move on girl...you ain't gettin' any younger or any cuter!
2006-11-17 11:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by kerber22 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you want to set yourself up for heartache? I bet the gilfriend has no idea you exist! Just friends? Uhmmmm....He's sneaking on her, and would you ever trust him if you had him? He never mentioned his gf, it "slipped", well... that doesn't say much for his character. A thief is a thief, and a sneak is a sneak, do you really want that?
Doing the right thing is a matter of character- show more than he has and step out of the picture- poaching is just wrong and you know that or you wouldn't be asking. You sound like a moral person with a conscience- good for you!
Doing the right thing when it's easy is a cinch- doing the right thing when it's hard is where true character comes in.
Follow your instinct and dump the sneak!
2006-11-17 13:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by Down to earth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it will work out between you guys. What makes you think he has the guts to even dump her for you? They've been together for 6 years now, and that's not a very short period. Even if you do want a relationship with this guy, he has to break off with her first, and not because for you, but because he feels and knows she's not right for him. Making him dump her for you is kinda mean. Wouldn't you feel cheated if he does that to you in the future? Seeing you behind her back is already bad enough. Think it through, if he's really that worth it. I hope you make the right choice.
2006-11-17 11:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop it. Drop it now. Don't waste any more time even thinking about it. You're both young (I've got to assume junior high or high school age, yes?) -- you've got quite a bit of growing up to do before you really understand this, but it's not worth pursuing somebody who is interested/into someone else. You probably wont be able to really understand that or appreciate it until your self-esteem has improved.
2016-03-29 00:01:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey u should run not walk to the nearest door and u will not look back. there is something u need to remember for now and the future "if he will cheat on her for u, he will cheat on u for someone else" and don't ever forget that, because it is the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth no matter what he says. Just ask ANY woman who has been the other woman. RUN < RUN< RUN.
2006-11-17 11:53:19 · answer #5 · answered by Nora G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boy lies and wants a bird in the hand AND two in the bush! boy is lying out his *** if he says "she's cool". Men don't stay with a chick cuz they have nothing better to do. He may be scared of marriage and trying to move on without getting out first but with you looking in from the outside, do you want a guy who will move on without breaking off the first one? Guess what happens when he is done with you in a few years?!?! Yeah you'll find out after the fact also! Plus you'll be stepping into drama cuz she gonna be pissed off to the extreme when she finds out he moved on without letting her in on it! boy is not right that does this sh!t and girl is in for a rocky road from the word "go"!
2006-11-17 11:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by sixfoot8bkr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you serious. Ladies. This is why men are on top because of stupid things like this. No cheating man is good. And he is cheating because he's leading you on by inviting you to lunch. You need to ask if he likes you otherwise if he doesnt your wasting your time and if he does he needs to make a decision otherwise he just basically and jerk for trying to have two girls.
2006-11-17 12:05:58 · answer #7 · answered by tinamg_18 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is been with her for 6 years there in love or it depends is the girl rich but 6 years thats a long time just wait and find outor I'll tell you to leave them alone just try not to have any problems with the girl just try to bother him and dont let the girl know
2006-11-17 11:55:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out. There is a good chance he would leave her. You have a very good chance with him. Don't forget to be his friend first...he probably is wanting that from you too.
It's possible he is with her for convenience. I doubt you'd be just an intellectual relationship for him.
2006-11-17 11:56:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl meets boy, girl likes boy, boy has another girlfriend, girl should kick boy out! 6 years!!!!!! Wake up...wake up!! Remember this: WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. 1st: how very sure are you he will not cheat on you with others, in future?! 2nd: you break other's relationship, someone will do it to yours. 3rd: he is a compulsive liar and you better off without him.
2006-11-17 11:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by Bear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋