I feel badly about this is there any hope?

Question

I was very mean to a person in my church and I did not want to be bothered and she needed my help I did give her the asisstance but I was very unkind. Now I think there is a wall between us and I love this womand dearly and we talked it out but there is damage done to this fellowship courtesy of my BIG mouth. I did say I was sorry but I feel awful, lately I have been such a miserable crabbyface.
What are ways that I can learn to be prudent with my speech to prevent this from happening again. Thank you my bothers and sisters I appreicate any godly advice, counsel and prayers or advice you may have.

Answer 1

Cast your cares upon Him. He has the power to make the crooked way straight. surrender your tongue to God. There is life and death in your tongue. He is life so give Him your tongue.

Answer 2

The form of speech you use is a symptom of an internal problem. You need to address how you are feeling and thinking about things when you say them.

Also consider: what do you think of the person you are dealing with? That will translate into your manner of speach.

If you have been miserable lately, you need to address that somehow. Hurting people tend to hurt others. If you have an emotional wound that needs "dressed", then tend to it. If you can't do that yourself, get help. There should be no shame in this. This may be somebody else's turn to step up and minister some life and God to YOU.

Answer 3

Sometimes we're surprised when our old nature seems to come out of the cage (so to speak) and overwhelms us—but we shouldn't be.

When we give our lives to Christ, His Spirit comes to live within us and begins to change us from within. He changes the way we act, and He also changes the way we think. But our old sinful nature is still alive, and if we aren't careful it will assert itself and try to cancel what God is doing. Even the Apostle Paul experienced this ongoing battle: "For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing" (Romans 7:19). We'll never be perfect in this life.

Seek God's forgiveness for what you did, and ask Him to keep you so close to Christ that it won't happen again. Then go to the person with whom you got angry, and humbly ask that person's forgiveness. Don't let this problem remain unresolved; it will only fester and get worse. The Bible says, "Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another" (Colossians 3:13).

Then pray that God will help you be a better witness for Christ—both by your words and by the way you live. Don't let this incident discourage you; God may even use it to show others how much Christ means to you.

Answer 4

Look deep into yourself, ask yourself what in your life is giving you the most grief. Your lack of patience and crabby attitude may be stemming from some amount of stress in your life that you have yet to address. Thus sometimes you may be short with someone or tend to ignore others needs because the stress is causing you to be distracted. Adddress the stress, try to work it out yourself or from the help of freinds and clergy and I think you will find yourself in a better disposition.

Answer 5

Probably make sure youre getting enough sleep and have a proper diet. I know my wife can really get out of line and she isnt getting much sleep!

But it sounds like you did the right thing in admitting to the person you were wrong and making things right. A woman wronged me in my church one time and insisted she did nothing wrong and wouldnt apologize for it. @ least you dont have a stubborn heart. Just remember to treat others how you expect to be treated and give people the benefit of the doubt when in doubt!

Answer 6

well first and foremost think before you speak, but if as you put it " you've been a crabby face" for a while, there may be some deep issues that need to be confronted, donate some time each day to meditation and prayer, honest prayer, and see if it does not aid you in some way shape or form.

Answer 7

Time and if you have apologised and she has not forgiven you it's quite possible the Lord will step in and create a situation where she will be beholden to you and you can be the one who is benevolent and thereby she becomes humble. Both need humility so know that time will take care of it.

Answer 8

Listen to all the sermons at CBC. There are several that are good for you.
'Evidence of Change - Growing in Love With God's Family' and 'Its About Me In Community' especially.

Answer 9

A fool's wisdom is known at once.

It is hard to fix this. Just go slow and believe that over time, that your efforts will work. Connections are hard to break. You can avoid them, but if you work to re-establish them, they will re-connect, most of the time. Just be patient. Be open. Stay sorry.

Good luck.

Answer 10

You apologized to her but did you actually seek her forgiveness? This may ease your own guilt. We must always keep in mind that not only our words, but also our actions affect others around us at all times. We could actually turn someone away from Christ without even knowing it!!! When viewed in this light, it's always easier for me personally to try to reflect Christ in everything I do, even when I may not feel like it.

Blessed Be

Answer 11

Just as long as u are truly sorry and she nos it everyting wil work out!!!!!Believe in urself 2 do d rit ting in future and 2 help bt dont always blame urself!!!!!!Every1 gets a bad mood every once and a while!!!!