I have been dating this girl for over a month, we are really attracted to each other and she wants to be more physical, but every time I go over to her place (I spend hours), her roomates always are walking by her open door and she never closes it so we can have privacy. I have kissed her with the door open, but was careful because it was kind of weird with her roomates walking by.Should I just close the door myself? Are these mixed signals?
2006-11-17 11:29:52 · 7 answers · asked by Bucky for Prez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, here's what I would do: Ask your girlfriend the following: "Can I close your door? I am really attracted to you and I'd like to get more physical, but I'm bothered by your roomates always walking by the open door. If you don't want me to close it, I won't."
If the answer is "yes", then, well you've got what you wanted and you included your girlfriend in the decision making. If the answer is "no" could you spend more time at your place -- is it more private? Basically if the answer is "no", then an alternative is going to have to be found.
2006-11-17 11:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by LiveLifeBeGood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, I'd say just close the door. However, closing the door in this case would imply that you do want to go further with her; that could be what she's waiting for, or not. You definitely know her better than I do. Her roomates are most likely either just as uncomfortable as you are, or are just checking that nothing horrible is happening to her. If you really want to move further with her, bring her to your place or casually close the door. Personally, I think that is month is too short of a time to get physical, but that's just me. Good luck
2006-11-17 19:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by trombonegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Close it yourself - if she has a problem with that, tell her you have a problem with it being open.
If she is truly wanting to be more physical she won't have a problem with it - unless there is something wierd going on.
HOWEVER...
Wait.
At the risk of sounding like a prude... less is more.
Hug her, hold her kiss her - but leave the door open, it keeps things from going further than they really need to.
Sex is great - but it only lasts so long.
Neither of you will drop dead from lack - and the energy created by (wait for it) abstaining... from full sex will be funneled towards other long term areas by default. It doesn't sound like either of you are in the relationship for the short term so there is no rush.
At any rate - room mates wandering by is just wierd. If there is the possibilty that they will enter without knocking then the point of closing the door is moot.
Thats my rant. Have a great day.
2006-11-17 19:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEFINITELY mixed signals, Dude! She's leaving the door open for a reason. She's playing. Now if she initiates closing the door, that's a different story. But let her do it. Until then, stay upright and show some restraint. she will respect you for that. Godloveya.
2006-11-17 19:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shut the door already!!! What are you waiting for??? Take control!!
2006-11-17 19:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by prtibrneyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, just ask her if you can close it, and if she says yes (why wouldn't she?) then close it.
2006-11-17 19:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she just isnt so sure if you want to or not or she could be having second thoughts
2006-11-17 19:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by kimgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋