Ok..I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years (I'm 21 he's 25) and I love him VERY much. But here lately we have been fighting a lot. The main cause of the fight is that I work to much. Which I understand because I do. I work at a police department and here lately we have been having to pull some pretty long shifts. If I were him I'd feel a little neglected myself. My problem is he wants me to get a different job because he doesn't like my hours and I don't get paid enough. I agree with that also but I LOVE my job. Is he somewhat right in wanting me around more? It's not like he is being bossy or controlling about it because he's not TELLING me to do it he's just askin. I just really don't want my job to be the cause of so many fights when we've made it 2 years with hardly fighting at all. Any suggestions are great. THANX!!
OH....I've been at this job for a little over a year. We have lived together for about 7-8 months.
2006-11-17 10:55:04 · 6 answers · asked by mthcowgurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry to hear that your hours of work are causing you problems in your relationship, I can understand I have a job that I have to also work so long hours sometimes. It is easy for loved ones to feel neglected when you have to work a lot. But also it is hard to leave a job that you enjoy. Believe me being happy at a job you do means a lot more than money, cause you can make a lot of money and be even more miserable than ever. Hopefully you have talked about that hopefully the extra hours of work might ease up soon. I wish that I had the all around answer to help fix your problem but I guess as you already know that there isn't a easy answer. To leave a job that you enjoy and end up being even more miserable or to keep on doing what you are know. I know that you probably have but try and talk with your boyfriend and see if you can work out more of a understanding with him and let him know that you love what you do and wish that he could try and bear with you for a while to see if your hours might ease up. Also I know that since you work for a police department that you have to work a lot, but you might try talking to them there also just to see if you might get some ease from all the hours ever so often. Well best of luck, hope things work out for you. Take care.
2006-11-17 11:21:33 · answer #1 · answered by bigjg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a crappy situation. You need to keep your man happy. And yourself. Lol... sometimes that's not possible. I would suggest that you tell your boss that the hours you are working are starting to make your home life stressful. That you love your job and dont want to leave is there anything that can be worked out with the hours? This has happened to me before and my boss was really cool about it. And if you are a good employee your boss should be too if he can afford to work with you. You are not like the chief of police right? If he cant do it then you should pay extra special attention to your guy over the holidays. That will make him feel a little better. Good Luck!
2006-11-17 11:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by Kari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just voicing whats the deal of him being angry. your job is causing a lot of fights. but just tell him you like your job and all that he's just suggesting what you could do to stop the fights. if it continues i'd say switch jobs or just stop working so many shifts....but if it causes that big of a problem and you treasure ur relationship with him more...think of considering your job situation. otherwise...if he's really needy..then i'd say dump him...eventually its gonna happen anyways and he'll get fed up if you stay with your job..so its kind of a hard call. GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-17 11:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by stefanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything drastic, or say anythng that would accuse him of being a bad boyfiend. Instead sit him down and really talk with him. If he doesn't speak his mind then tell him you feel like somethings wrong. Make it sound like your the one with the problem and he should be more willing to say how he feels- knowing your not blaming him, cuz that will only start a fight!
2006-11-17 11:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by evey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have somebody support what you love. Give him a chance to get used to the hours. If he truly loves you, he will accept it even if he doens't like it. Be true to yourself, but explain to him how important this job is to you and work at making the time you have together great
2006-11-17 10:59:14 · answer #5 · answered by Meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont mix pleasure and work...and from yo title i just had to say this..
Is it worth it,
let me work it,
i put my thang down flip it, and reverse it
LMAO
2006-11-17 10:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋