Ladies: Are these actions of a woman who likes me as a friend or potential interest?

Question

Ok, here goes.....

I work with someone who always says hi to me, smiles alot when she talks to me, asks me about where I work and acts interested in what I do. She also asked me for my email one time. Now, I asked her out, but she told me she was "kind of seeing someone" but would definitely want to hang out as friends and beamed over how close we lived to one another. Basically, I kept it on the down low and would say hi to her occasionally, but like if I see her and don't say anything she'll say hi and this past week she'd start a convo with me or be in one with me and I'd have to cut it short because I had to get back to work. (Not a knock on her, she's a hard worker herself and good at what she deos)

The point is.......am I just a friend or is she interested but spoken for. We have a party coming up and she asked me if I was going and to hurry up soon because time was runni8ng out even though she was going with someone......

Honestly, I don't think dating someone I work with would be a good idea if I had a choice with her, but i am attracted this girl.

Any suggestions what to do next?

Answer 1

Some women keep someone on the back burner "just in case" the current boyfriend bombs.. you're the back-up plan, and she likes to flirt.

Let it go, if she's doing it to him, she'll do it to you, too. You want to worry about who she's flirting with as a back-up while you're involved with her???

Answer 2

Sounds like a girl who doesn't quite know her own mind to me, old buddy.

I've been in this situation so many times, thinking a girl likes me and letting it get into my head, only for it all to end badly. I think this girl isn't too sure in the relationship she's in and is either hedging her bets or just looking for a bit of male attention to make herself feel still attractive. Is she quite young? I bet the answer's yes.

My advice is to play it really cool, just like you've been doing. If she likes you, let her come to you. If she doesn't then you know it wasn't meant to be.

As for the party? I'd definitely go, but turn up late -- and bring a female friend with you if you can. Make yourself look as attractive to the opposite sex as you can. Good luck!

Answer 3

I'd say hope she is just being friendly. If she is showing interest in you while definitely seeing someone else, she is bad news.