connection with him if he never returns my calls, or emails?
I understand she is important and the girls are too, but is there anyway to retain our relationship, or should I just give up and live with seeing him at Christmas only?
2006-11-17 10:46:30 · 11 answers · asked by anjel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They have been living together for over a year, and then only time he calls me at all is if he needs help, or wants me to babysit, and I love the girls, but it's like ok we are back get out now. It hurts to think he is using me but he is isn't he?
2006-11-17 11:05:20 · update #1
it sure sounds like he is. why not tell him and this girl how they are making you feel. maybe they don't realize it. he does have a life of his own now and wont be able to spend a great deal of time with you, but it would be nice if you were able to get together more often. so talk to the two of them. but what ever you do don't start by saying " sense the two of you have been together" this will look like you are blaming the girlfriend, and you are clearly not from the things you are saying about her and the kids.
2006-11-17 11:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so jealous that you would just "give up"? You have a connection to your brother that no one can take away from you no matter how hard they try. He's a man, for God's sake! He wants a woman! Give him a break from being your "twin" for a change. He needs some time to be just himself without the shadow. He will be back. You love the guy? Then give him so space to grow. You could use some yourself. Godloveya both!
2006-11-17 19:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs some space right now. Being a twin is difficult, and sometimes you have to let one another have a separate life for awhile. The more you try to hang on, the more he will pull away.
It might seem like this is a permanent change, but he is just trying to work things out with this new love interest. Once they are resolved and comfortable with one another.... or broken up....
he will again feel that need for your company again.
Try to think how you would feel if you were in his place, and just be there for him when he needs you.
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2006-11-17 18:50:33 · answer #3 · answered by govy000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if your brother is too far away for you to go and see him personally but it sounds as if that's what you need to do. You need to stop the calls and the e-mails and go talk to your brother and tell him that you miss talking to him and you just wanted to see how he was doing. Sometimes you have to just get up and make a move for yourself and stop thinking that if he doesn't call back or email me back then I'll give up. No you go talk to your brother. Good Luck!
2006-11-17 18:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. start writing him notes to tell him you are thinking about him. then a note stating what you explain to us. Then share something funny or interesting that happen to you. Send the family flowers just because. If they dont live to far from you invite them over for lunch or dinner or out to the theatre, just send the tickets in advance so they can get a baby sitter etc.Good luck.
2006-11-17 18:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the bigger person and do what you can to keep in touch...
even if it is calling & leaving message that say something like
hey you were on my mind & I wanted to check in. Hope the girlfriend & kids are doing good. Talk to you soon.
I am sure that your brother appreciates your calls, but he has probably gotten in a little over his head with a girlfriend who has 2 kids............kids are a handful.
Dont take it personally. Its part of growing up.... unfortunately!!!
2006-11-17 18:55:26 · answer #6 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have done all you can to connect with him stop beating yourself up. Stop trying so hard maybe his girlfriend is giving him a hard time maybe she sees you as intrusive. If you get to see him at xmas try to get him alone give him a chance to answer then decide. If you have made every effort to connect with him and its not working see what happens but whatever happens remember you tried
2006-11-17 18:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by ann jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's the honeymoon stage... of course he will get caught up in his new relationship... :). just be happy for him, and concentrate on Your life too. the more healthy, happy, and Positive both of u are, the more u have to share when u get together and chat! u don't want to see him at christmas and only say "i tried to email u so much".. .u want to be like, "hey, nice to see u! guess what i've been up to.. so on and so forth..."
:) that way, he will appreciate ur bond, and yet both of u will have ur Own lives~~ don't be sad.... be glad he is happy. and try to make youreslf happy too~~
2006-11-17 18:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a twin so I know how you feel. When she got married,
her husband didn't like our twin relationship. So, it's been
30 years, now she's finally getting divorced from him.
2006-11-17 19:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by judy f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to whee he lives at and try to hang out with him if he turns you down just forget him he'll bored of them and try to crawl back to you
2006-11-17 18:50:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋