And then act all smug about it. I can feel myself on the verge of exploding . I have been letting it slide for a while. Would you say anything, because I live in her house. I think she does it because she knows I am in a bind.
2006-11-17 10:46:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have to ask the obvious question first -- if you dislike her so much why are you living in her house? You have to change that no matter what it takes, otherwise you are just continuing to give her one opportunity after another to get on your case.
Move out and have as little contact with her (or ideally NONE) as possible. And realize that when she says or does mean things she is showing HER lack of class, it has nothing to do with you.
Whether you say something to her or not is I think irrelevant -- she KNOWS she is getting on your nerves. Personally, I would try to stay silent and not stoop to her level.
2006-11-17 10:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by clueless_nerd 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, all you can do is try to keep a stiff upper lip. Do not disrespect her in any way or your hubby just might jump on her band wagon.
There is something her that bothers me tho. Are you sure she has no justifiable reason to be on your back? Are you respectful to her? Do you help out, pull your weight or do you just let her be your maid?
Sit down with her and call a truce. Be nice. Tell her you're sorry that you have to intrude on her right now but, that you are sincerely trying to better yourself.
What about your folks? Where are they in all this?
Hurry, get your finances together and get a place of your own. Show her that you are a responsible person, Because right now it sounds like you may have some growing up to do just by the way your question was worded.
2006-11-17 11:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by Smurfetta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this is sort of devious, but it will turn out to be big fun for you once you get the hang of it all.
Be extra nice to her. I mean really really extra nice, no matter how nasty she gets. Even hug her. What can she say to her son, "she is horrible, she hugs me." "she is bad. She says nice things to me and smiles." And this behavior will drive her right up the wall. You have to blind her with sugar and honey. No matter how much she offends you, NEVER let her see you are bothered. Sweetie, you won. You got the little prize, her baby boy. And she hates that. She hates that you have him and will keep him. If she could, she would drive you out of the house then tell her baby boy what a horrible woman you were, and see, you left him. Don't let her win this one. Fight the sneaky way, smiles, kind words, hugs, ...bomb this b*tch with love. It will hurt more than anything she can throw at you because how will she look if she complains that you love her.
2006-11-17 11:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by the witch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice even though you would like to explode and say something. Remember once it comes out of your mouth you can't take it back. You may apologize and ask forgiveness, but the words have already been spoken. Always keep one thing in mind "had it not been for her, you would not have her son".
2006-11-17 10:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by meg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her this upsets you. You have to get your husband to step up for you, also, and he should tell her to stop. It will get worse if you do not put an end to it. For me, it went on and on, no help form my husband, until it was easier to not see the MIL. My life has been so much better and I feel it was the right thing to get the kids away from her, as she said things in front of them!
2016-05-21 23:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have to let people know where you stand. It's not what you say, but how you say it. Does your husband know how you feel? what does he have to say? Just because you live in her house doesn't give her "the go" to treat you any way she wants to. Maybe she's trying to push your buttons to start trouble. Be careful because men tend to be very sensitive about their mothers.
2006-11-17 10:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by Rhea M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just bite your tongue for now. She is helping you out right now and she thinks that gives her all the power. Just get what you need to get done and move out. I bet there will be a change in her! Good Luck
2006-11-17 10:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by joyall57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is doing it in hopes that you will get sick of it and move out. why are you living in her home anyway? if you and your husband are working then you should have a place of your own. if either of you are not working then i suggest that you find a job and get out of her house. if for some reason you cant get your husband to leave the nest then go with out him.
2006-11-17 11:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, you hit the nail on the head!
where is your husband in all of this? if things are that bad why don't you get your own place. beggers can not be choosers. you can do and say what ever you like in your own home. but then again, so can she!
2006-11-17 10:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mother in laws tend to be a bit jeleous of the daughter in law...she is doing it to get you angry. Don't give in to her. Buy the movies "Monster in Law"...and watch it with her
2006-11-17 10:57:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋