how do i 'discipline' my two yr old son?

Question

I have a2yr old boy and a 6mnth old girl, how do I stop my boy from being over boisterous with her, the more I move him from the situtation (this applies to ANY situation) he just keeps going back! he wont allow himself to be distracted, and I cant let it turn into a battle of wills-that just doesnt work! i'm at my wits end.He is really pushing the boundries! HELP!

Answer 1

i use the naughty step or time out step its called in our house, my daughter is 5 now and i havent used it for about two years, you've probally heard of it you give them a warning and ask them to stop then a warning that they are about to be put on the naughty step then you place them on the bottom stair or small stool in another room... for a min 4 each year of their life!! they willtry to get back of but each time dont get mad just stay calma and walk them back there untill they have sat there for the 'sentence' PERSEVERE it really works it took me 4 hours the first time to serve a 2 min sentence lol she is as stuborn as me!! even if they scream or cry leave them there as long as they dont get off(if they do they start the sentence again) when the time is up go to them and explain why u put them there and ask for an appology and a kiss/cuddle and then do not hold a grudge or explain to anyone else what they have done in front of the child they need to know they are forgiven after a day of two you will all be playing nicely as a family good luck x x

Answer 2

Instead of thinking of it as discipline..why not think of terms as positive guidance? He is still so young, that many concepts he does not quite get, or understand. Your new child is likely throwing him in a tailspin. Your little boy sees you spending More time with this baby. Jealousy will no doubt be a huge factor in your son trying to get more attention from you. But even without the baby, at 2 a child's behaviour is still at learning terms. Do not expect him to act mature, or not throw things..2 year old have so much goining on in their little minds..always discovering, learning...but not yet understanding so much of their surroundings. Also, all 2 years old are boisterous..ohhh, to have half the energy they have! make sure any breakable things are put away for a few years..unless you don't care if they get broken. Redirect him and help him to understand more. If he is boisterous..throw on some music..let him jump around..get some Mats..or an mattress..let him jump..they NEED to do that. Or just let him run around, giggling away as he does.
There are lots of books you can seek out for 2 year olds..they really aren't terrors...but they are wonderful delightful, happy go lucky kids...that will show their displeasure if their worlds gets turned upside down. And to your litle boy..it seems like his world has been turned abit. Paitence, postive guidence, a good sense of humor..and your time without the new baby..will do the world of good for your boy, and for you.

Answer 3

Have you watched those TV programmes where a nanny comes in and helps the parents learn how to control their unruly children? They are brilliant. She tends to give a 'naughty step' where the child is put on the bottom step of the staircase, or banished to it's bedroom (I don't like that one!) and left there for 2 minutes (and only 2 minutes)to cool off. He has to stay there and if he tries to get up, he is put back there until he calms down (without talking to him) Then he's allowed back with a hug. Any bad behaviour is ignored, no remonstrating, just an admonishment like 'If you do that again you will go to the naughty step'. But you have to follow through with it every time. No letting him off. It's really hard at first, but as long as both you and your partner stick to the rules, you can really see the child start to behave better. Positive encouragement aswell, 'Well done Fred!' 'That's a good boy' or whatever. But the only negative you give is the 'naughty step' warning, before you dump him there in absolute silence! He'll be yelling his head off, but you stay absolutely silent. Plonk him down, make sure he's sitting down, don't talk to him and go back to your daughter. He'll hear you having fun and eventually it will hit him that that he wants to join in. Just don't do what I did once and forget he's there! Two minutes is a lifetime for an infant!
Believe me, it really works.
Beware the partner creeping in to give him a talking to. You don't need to explain. He's naughty, so he goes to the naughty step. End of story. You shouldn't have to explain to an infant. You are the boss!
Good Luck.

Answer 4

I think that you need to tell your son "No" firmly and remove him from the situation. My son is almost 2 and there have been times when I've had to remove him from situations for being wound up. When we're at home I'll put him in his room and shut the door (though it doesn't close all the way). I tell him that he needs to calm down. Usually he plays in there for a while and then comes out a lot calmer. But if he comes out with the same "attitude" he went in with (usually he's in there because he's screeching), then I immediately repeat the process. It works well when I handle it right away, do this consistently and don't lose my temper.

Answer 5

A battle of wills will work. You've given in already.

You need to put him in a "naughty place" (stair, corner, room) for 2 minutes and get him to say sorry afterwards. He won't like it and you have to keep him there until he sits there ON HIS OWN for 2 minutes.

If you don't get "on top" now, when are you going to do it? When he's 5? 9? 14?

You are the adult. He is a little child. You can and MUST win or he will end up bullying you.

Answer 6

the harder you try to keep them apart the worse it gets..I have a 2 year old and a almost 4 month old. If he hurts her timeout in his room always work for me. But if you are just nervous try to make him aprt of helping care for her adn give him soft toys were he can interact with out fear of hurting her. I was constantly keeping my guy away from the baby but he would get mad and frustrated and it would be a big problem. Now he is a part of our trio and things have smoothed out. Also while baby is napping take one of those naps and totally dedicate it to time with him, playing toys playdoh fingerpaint or whatever you will be amazed at how good he will be the rest of the day.

Answer 7

Time out....1 minute for every year. or maybe a swat on the butt. I know my son hates time outs....he hates having to stand still and face the corner.....and all I have to do is threaten it, and he'll stop acting up.....Just be consistent, and if he fights it put him back in the corner and keep walking away...Time out dosen't start until he is standing still...you might also try the pleypen in the corner temporarly if he won't give up after 10 minutes or so of trying.

Answer 8

When I had my 3dr child I all ready had a boy then girl 4 years another boy the girl was very jealous of him.When he was about 6 weeks old she started shaking him hard I had my back to them.When I found out what she did I shoOK her back to let her know how it felt she never did it again .She is now 29 .not best friends but ok together

Answer 9

I have 2 year old son as well and know what you mean about them not listening. If my son does not listen to what I say then I put him out of the room and close the door. After he has calmed down (if it is at that stage) or after a minute I go out and say to him if he does it again then he will go back out. Try it, 2 year olds hate having no attention put on them and by excluding them they hate it. It works for me.

Answer 10

I SOOOO understand what your going through. My son is 2 and my daughter is 1. The best thing that I found was SHOWING my son how to play with his baby sister. Your little boy may be feeling a little left out...so bring him in on the action. When you change her diaper...ask him to get you the wipes...if your feeding her...let him wipe her mouth with a napkin. I wouldn't advise trying to keep him away from her.....eventually it will start to hurt his feelings. Try to include him...show him how to shake a toy in front of her...your son is a sponge right now...he's so into his baby sister that NO TOY IN THE WORLD is gonna take her place!!! SHOW HIM, TEACH HIM and he'll change right before your eyes!!! Best of Luck to you and your little ones!!!