2006-11-17 10:20:48 · 4 answers · asked by MsMoneyPenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can really relate to you. My first love and I dated for a bit more than 2 years. He was 20. I was 17 at the time we got together. I lost my virginity to him at 18. When I was getting ready to go to college, we amicably decided to part ways. We acknowledged that we both loved each other and that we were still young to totally commit to an exclusive relationship due to the fact that we were going to be hundreds of miles away at school and it was unrealistic for us to expect that either one of us wouldn't find someone else to be with. Once at school, we talked weekly and stayed close friends. The spring of my freshman year of college, he committed suicide. It would be an understatement to say that I was completely devastated. That was more than 15 years ago and I still dream of him and miss him when I wake up. I ended up in weekly therapy and it took me 5+ years to get over my loss to a point that I could move on. I have since married and have a son. Please seek therapy. If your are paralyzed by your sadness, you could also be depressed and need to take some medication to help you feel like yourself again. It's a hard step to take, believe me I know. I have been there and know what you are going through. You can move on and still remember what you miss and embrace the parts of you that still love the one you lost. I am praying for your peace.
2006-11-17 11:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by hollyberry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new love
2006-11-17 18:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Exactly what are you getting out of this grief.? is it working for you, if not then it is time to move on
2006-11-17 18:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
counseling should help you . maybe you need someone to talk to
2006-11-17 18:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋