age gap. im 18 and he is 29. would you guys date with a girl who is 11 years younger than you? btw im mature?

Question

i feel so secure when im w him. and the only time he ever cried is when he was alone with me, and i think its a kind of trustfull act. he always watches over me. and i always watch over him bc regardless of his age, he is a MATURE BABY. phisical attraction is also great. but no- we havent been together bc he respects my desicion of waiting until feeling fully ready.(we have been together for 9 months). we understand each other so well that it almost unbelivable. we share the same taste at a lot of things. and we also have the courage to tell each other if we do no like sth about each other. anyay. this is my second post about the same situation. bc i think im misunderstood. also its legal in my country to go into bars. and me claming to be mature and using a childish english- well english isnt my mother tounge.even i believe in myself out being mature, i feel the need to ask this question here bc i want to know how society feels bout the situation. hope this explains the missing points

Answer 1

18 and 29 are very big gaps in terms of life experiences, overall perceptions of life, etc.. if you both seem to be a good match and if you have both enjoyed the relationship so far, then no reason not to keep dating.. stay with him as long as you are happy.. a 29 year old guy is probably more mature and more down to earth than teen age guys..

i saw the other reply on there about not giving away your youth.. well, there were lots of good points in there too.. guess life is all about "opportunity cost" you need to decide whether you are better off staying involved with this guy, or if you think you'd do better to end it and try dating other guys..

personally, if i was in a really good relationship, i wouldn't end it unless there was a really good reason too.. in your case, i see no reason to end it..

just don't be in too much of a rush to grow up and get married..

hopefully this guy can appreciate that you are still young and won't pressure you to grow up to fast..

good luck and hope things work out!

Answer 2

ok girl i dont know where u r from but here in the great old u.s.a anything legal goes and lets face it anyguy loves to have a yong girl friend the only thing is well guys are tricky bastards they will do or say anything to get what they want so check him out alittle better u might be waiting but he could be using his favorite booty call every nite or he may be just what he says he is some of us r really honorable ihavehad ayounger girlfriend i m42 and she was 26 and we really did great together and we r still great friends and it is probably because of our age differences that everything worked so well so if hes real give it ashot besides you r young try everything once and if u like it go back 4 more randall

Answer 3

I don't care how mature you are. You're still 18. Why do you need to be tied down to a guy 11 years your senior?

You're at two VERY different levels--let me guess: you think that you really want to get married ,right? And he's finally matured to the point where marriage is okay, right?

You're 18. You're still a child. Date him for 4 years before you make any decisions like that. Were you the same person you were at 16? No. You aren't going to be the same person in 3 years.

You are giving up your childhood for this guy--you're going to regret that later on. Enjoy these years! These are your FUN years when you don't have to be responsible like you have to be when you're adult!

If you want to continue dating this guy, fine. Just don't be blinded by marriage. Enjoy yourself too--remain independent. You don't need a guy to be happy, especially not a guy who is 29.

Answer 4

I think that a lot of guys would kill to be with a younger woman. You're 18, it's not illegal...if you two love eachother, then stick with him. I don't think 11 years is that big of an age gap if both parties are in the age range of 18 and up.

Answer 5

A lot of women prefer their man to be older and matuire. Age does not matter when it comes to love. As long as you both understand and are happry with each other, go for it.So, it is okay to date a woman 11 years younger than you.

Answer 6

If you like each other then be together. I would date a woman that was younger than me as long as she was of legal age.

Answer 7

Listen men don't mature as fast as women do so don't think that just because he says "you're mature for your age" means you are! I'm not putting you down but maturity comes with life experience and what you've been through in your persoanl life. I'm 21, have a 4 yr old and a 1yr old, I've been raising myself since I was 13 and have been through much more than some people can ever imagine. I make at least 4 life changing decisions on a daily basis for my company and I have made $95K this year as of October, and about 50k of that was made in the past 3 months. I would definitley say that I'm mature in some aspects as far as I know how how to take care of a family and be in charge of 10 people who are at least 5+ years older than me. I still wouldn't call myself mature though, I still want to have fun and I still do things like call in to work and say I'm sick when I'm not, but the responsible part of me will still do some work online. But mature people don't do things like that whether they can afford to or not. Anyway I don't consider myself to be "mature for my age" because I don't want to be. Anyway, fiance is 35 that's a 14 year difference and at first my parents had their opinions but as soon as they saw how happy he made me they weren't worried. As far as other people, who cares what they think if he truelly makes you happy then go for it, and if you have your own doubts about the relationship then why not just go along for the ride. You're young and have plenty of time to fall in love. Don't be so quick to pride yourself on being mature, you need to live and be a kid, have fun. If you don't you'll regret it and resent him. When I met my fiance he took me out all the time and i wouldn't act the same way I would when my friends and I would go out. I would just sit at the bar with him and laugh at the other people who were making a**es of themselves, but secretly I was one of them when I'm alone with friends. I was doing this because I thought it was the way he wanted me to act and the reason he was so interested in me. But I was wrong, he wanted me to have fun and be one of those silly people, it made him feel better, knowing I was being myself. Anyway with that said, I say have fun live and let live. Life is menat to be taken advantage of and enjoyed to the max. Have all the fun you can at your age and take your man along for the ride, he'll appreciate it. Oh and BTW


FU*K WHAT PEOPLE HAVE TO SAY OR THEIR STINKING OPINIONS. As matter of fact, my opinion shouldn't even matter, you should look to yourself for the answers. If nothing is wrong, then there's nothing to fix or wonder about, Right!!??

Answer 8

Yes,I would date a woman who was 11 years younger than me.

I actually prefer dating much younger women.

Answer 9

As long as all parties are above the legal minimum age then age itself does not matter.

Answer 10

i have... and it worked out good for a lil while then about a year in to our relationship he kind of got that i'm older attitude and i wanna tell you what to do.. I didnt take his s*h*i*t* much longer... i told him to kick rocks... but good luck it really seems like you both enjoy each other ...