Problem for atheists and agnostics to solve only.....!?

Question

I DONT WANT HATE COMMENTS, I WANT HELP...THIS IS FOR THOSE WHO ARE NOT RELIGIOUS.
ok, my b/f, he is christian, im athiest. he is republican, i am democrat. i support gays and abortion, and all those other subjects. he doesnt. he lives his life for football, i hate it.

the problem: i was trying to keep from him for a while(we have been going out for a month now.) that i am athiest. somehow, he found out. and today, he gave me a bible and told me i had to read it "for him". he even underlined stuff that i should read and it had to do w/ 'sinning" for not believing in god. i believe he is disrespecting my beliefs. he thinks in going to hell, and he wants to save me, but i dont think that, because i think differently from him. should i leave him, or give him another chance? hes found my pet peeve on accient by trying to convert me to christianity...am i hating too much, im so upset at him. any suggestions??
thanks

Answer 1

#1. Learn to spell A-T-H-E-I-S-T #2. Dump his sorry butt, you're better of without the idiot.

Answer 2

Hand him back a novel you know he will hate. I was raised a christian all my life until I was 23 or so. then I became agnostic because it all seemed like a big joke to me. anyhow, I'm very well read on my bibe. I fight with people all the time on the net that don't know a 1/4 as much of the bible as I do and yet still they try. Christians by design are pushy and they are taught that if you're not with them, you're against them. My advice? leave while you can. this will never change, and the only other thing you can do is convert and pretend, and who wants a lie like that all their life?

Answer 3

Tough to answer because I'm surprised you can deal with all those other things (football, pro-life, etc.) If he just wants you to read the bible one time just so you can better understand where he's coming from, then he's really not asking that much. But, if this guy actually believes you are going to hell, I have no idea how you could stand being with him. Sounds like he will never really be happy unless you convert. He is being somewhat disrespectful but he's never going to see it that way if he thinks you need to be saved. I would never be able to put up with someone like that. Since you haven't given any reason why you want to be with him I don't understand why you're interested in this guy anyway.

Answer 4

If this man is not flexible in his tolerance for for the rest of humanity then you can not stay with him. You would have to give up ideas that are the crux of your being and subjugate yourself in order to be acceptable by his standards. I'm sorry but this will not work out. I am also considered an atheist because I do not believe in the bible as the word of god nor do I believe religion is a positive influence on humanity. Those who believe with all their heart will rarely fall from the church. It usually takes an unanswered prayer at a desperate time of need to open some eyes and hearts. The most tightly closed hearts belong to those who profess to know god.

Answer 5

Well, considering that the one nearest and dearest to me is a Christian, and I am an atheist, I understand you just fine.

My advice is have an open mind about things. You don't have to change your beliefs at all to show him the respect of
listening to what he has to say. If I were to be given a Bible, I would read it in order to be better informed and argue on my own behalf. I wear his crucifix with pride...yes, I wear a crucifix. I never take it off, choosing instead to honor him.

The gay and abortion issue is a lost cause, as is being of different political parties, football, capital punishment, etc. He is entitled to his beliefs, as are you, and I imagine it makes your relationship quite interesting.

If you were to leave him over such trivial things, then you would never be able to handle a real crisis. You need to reevaluate this relationship, for his sake as well as yours.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

There's no reason why the two of you can't get along splendidly IF you both respect the other's right to be who he or she is. You have a right to be who you are. If your boyfriend isn't willing to respect that right, he's not worth keeping.

That said, this might be his first encounter with a real atheist. He might just be doing what he was taught a good Christian must do. Ask him to tell you what his faith means to him, and listen. Then tell him why you believe as you do. Share with him what some of history's great personages have said about Christianity. He might not know that Thomas Jefferson considered himself a Christian but thought the idea of Jesus being divine was utter nonsense.

Give him time to adjust, but don't back down. You have a right to be who you are, and so does he. If you both can handle it, great. If one or both of you can't--hey, there are more fish in the sea. But don't let anyone tell you it can't work JUST BECAUSE you aren't the same. That's cowardly and false.

Answer 8

Good grief! How did you two hook up? I mean, he must have some nice qualities, and it's okay not to disagree about things, but he has SO crossed the line regarding any respect for you. If you meant anything to him he would not want you to be a different person. He wants you to be him. There is a word for self-lovers...

You need to find someone you don't, from the outset, feel the need to conceal some important fact about your self from. THAT should have been the alarm call. Good luck with your next love.

Answer 9

tell him you find it very disrespectful, and if he cared about you, he would respect your opinions and beliefs. if you want, tell him you are willing to read the bible, but on your own terms, and you want to discuss some things from it. be honest. religion shouldnt be a problem. you just have to have respect for each other. let him believe what he believes, dont force yourself on him, but make sure he knows that you expect the same thing in return.

let him know that you appreciate that he wants to "save" you, but you dont believe you need saving, and that you feel you live your life very morally and honestly and if there is a god, he will respect you for that and save you anyways. if there isnt, then you still lived you life and you deemed appropriate and dont regret it. maybe he will see how you feel.

Answer 10

I think that what he did was incredibly rude. In every possible way. He just basically said you aren't intelligent enough to make your own choice and is trying to convert you.

My question to you is... why were you trying to hide from him that you're atheist? Obviously you knew this would happen.

If you aren't comfortable enough with him, or trust him enough, to tell him the truth right from the beginning, then you aren't meant to be together.

Because you can't force him not to believe and he can't force you to believe. You obviously can't find a middle ground.

I suggest you move on. If he can't be respectful enough of you not to try to push you into religion then he isn't worth your time.

Answer 11

Argh, I've been there. I can pinpoint the moment my relationship with my college boyfriend died: he reached across the table and said tenderly, "Darling, I'm worried about your soul."

Luckily you've only been going out for a month. I vote leave him. Yeah it'll hurt his feelings, but you'll never be very comfortable together with this issue between you, and really you ought to be happy and comfortable with your boyfriends. That's really the crux of it.

Really you'll be doing him a favor too. He'll probably be much happier if he hooks up with someone who shares his point of view. So, it's unpleasant, but it's the best thing for all involved. It's a positive, rational, mature thing to do. Just be gentle about it and move on to someone more your style.