Okay so ever since I got with my fiancee I have worked. I just quit my job at a factory where I worked 6 days a week. He worked at Subway as an assiant manager for only 5.50 an hour. I supported us. He quit his job about 3 or 4 months ago. He didn't have a job for about 2 months, so I supported him and myself. Now I have a job where i work maybe 40 hours every 2 weeks. He just started a job at a factory he works alot now. I got in a wreck and totalled my car and i wont be able to get another one until my income tax. If I had a car I would work alot more. Should I feel bad that he is now supporting us??
2006-11-17 10:02:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
no not at all its the mans job to take care of his woman anyway. you should be fine this is all apart of being a man in a relationship with a woman, now dont take it for granted but you should feel no remorse because its a mans job to take care of his woman like she is the queen of the world. if you fall he should be there to pick you up. if you fall short he should pick up the slack and together you guys carry on.
2006-11-17 17:37:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let me understand, you are still working but not as much, is this correct?
Anyways, Why should you feel bad if you were supporting him when he had no job, and now he has a job and is supporting you? Is he willing to help out and is understanding of the situation? I would imagine he is.
Don't make such an issue out of something that doesn't need to be.
2006-11-17 10:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's what a relationship is about - supporting each other in times of need. It's a give and take. Now it's time that you have to take. The fact that you have already done your part to support the family makes it just even for him to support you now.
2006-11-17 10:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all!! And he should not be complaining about it either. Being with someone is all about team work and if you guys can get through this, just as you got through him not having a job and you supporting the 2 of you, you can survive anything!! You helped him and now he can help you....its all about love, respect, honor, and support!!
2006-11-17 10:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you guys plan on being together for the rest of your life-- there are going to be lots of instances where you are going to have to hold eachother up. You supported him- now its his turn...I wouldn't take advantage of it tho!!!!
Just because your car-less doesn't make you worthless. Find a job close by that you can walk to or take a bus to and from work. Find something.
2006-11-17 10:06:24 · answer #5 · answered by linsey5130 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Welcome to married life. When my husband and I first moved intogether (before the wedding) I made more than he did. Then he lost his job entirely so I was supporting the household. Then he found a really good job. And then I lost MY job. So in a matter of four months we switched roles entirely. He still supports us with his income. Mine is only supplemental.
2006-11-17 12:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, don't think you should feel bad.caring each other is apart of the relationship and you might as well get used to it your not even married yet. and seeing you have a computer browse the net has a lot of on line jobs you can do from home check it out...one
2006-11-17 10:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by golden 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This question has nothing to do with weddings...however, you shouldn't feel bad about him supporting you b/c it is your duty to each other: thru good times and bad. Things will get better, you'll work again and everything will be back to normal.
2006-11-17 14:05:54 · answer #8 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! Every relationship is give and take. If only one person is giving, the relationship sucks. As long as you are both healthy and continuing to move forward, it is okay for him to be the main breadwinner for a while.
2006-11-17 10:05:01 · answer #9 · answered by KB4K 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why?
As a rule men hunt and women cook......
I mean I would be priviledged to support the love of my life.
2006-11-17 10:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋