I mean....men go to such extreme lenghts to convince their girlfriend/wife or any girl for that matter to do this. What do you think is the big appeal for them? Don't they realize that for every girl they enocurage....he actually might be loosing her to the other side?
2006-11-17 09:40:26 · 22 answers · asked by G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wondered about that for a long, long time. And I have asked men why too. They never give real answers. They just say it is soooooo hot. Yeah yeah yeah. That information and a dollar will get you a cup of coffee. But I asked women the same question, and got real answers. Men are basically pretty clumsy in lots of things they do. Sometimes sex is included in this list. And....look at a woman's body and look at a man's. Some of us is a mystery, covered sometimes with a bit of hair, and some of the most important parts inside. But if you look at our bodies, we are round, full, soft, velvety, creamy skinned. We don't have a lot of extra hair all over us. Our necks are graceful, our hands. As we move, we are almost dancing sometimes. Two women touching and kissing is erotic, elegant. Look at two men kissing. It isn't the same fantasy at all. Sex between two women is gentle, soft for the most part. Two men are hard, very basic. There is not the tenderness. Our bodies are sensual, sexual, beautiful. Men are functional. They can be beautiful, yes. But it really is not the same action as two women touching each other. It is quiet art.
2006-11-17 10:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by the witch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this situation (3-somes, 4-somes) quite a few times, so I think I have a pretty good perspective on this, to answer your question.
1. The turn on part of it comes from the fact that men are attracted to women (duhhh!) AND very visually stimulated when it comes to sex, so two women having sex still appeals to their heterosexual desires (because it's still two chicks!), AND it appeals to their voyeuristic tendency (we like to watch!).
2. The way you state this in a derogatory manner towards men, ignores the fact that the women doing this are enjoying it!!
Most women are in fact bisexual, but are so afraid to experiment that they need a little "help" being convinced. It's not that the men are necessarily coercing their women to do this (some do though), but women usually need to be "seduced" to do anything sexually, so it's really just an extension of that. Many want their men to set the whole thing up; find the girl, initiate the situation, etc.
3. It's extremely rare for a hetero girl to "go lesbian" from having a bi experience.
All the girls I've known (& been with) who have had 3-somes or bi-sex still love sex with a man just as much, maybe even more, because this opened them up sexually so they had less fears & hangups sexually in general, so they could enjoy ALL sex more.
2006-11-17 09:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by dork 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... sounds to me like repressed homosexual tendencies being expressed through a psychosocially acceptable fantasy construct.
OK seriously - watching physical intimacy and sex is a turn on to anyone with a healthy libido and no big moral objections. If both the people involved in the intimacy are people the viewer is sexually attracted to (instead of just one of them) then the pleasure is doubled. Don't believe me? See how many guys want to watch a 350 pound 45-year-old woman make out with a 85-year-old 85 pound woman...
Regarding "loosing them to the other side" - with few exceptions, gay is from birth. If your girlfriend is a lebian and just doesn't know it, she'll figure it out eventually (like when 20 years of relationships with men are completely unfulfilling) and likely "switch sides" on her own. Better to figure this out sooner than later (especially 3 kids later...). If she's interested in both genders - so much the better. However, if she's only interested in men (or if she's at all interested in monogamy) it would be wrong to pressure her to do something she's not comfortable with, which is a lot more important than the risk of "loosing her to the other side".
2006-11-17 09:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by Dim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's twice the fun. I don't find it all that erotic, and there are other men like me, but the notion that a woman will leave a man for a female partner is a less remote threat than is the threat of her leaving him for another man. Less painful, too. There's also the fond dream that the two women will invite the man on board, and threesomes are awesome.
2006-11-17 09:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have boobs, curves, nice legs and we kiss much softer. Two good looking women kissing and rubbing in an intimate way is a turn on. I totally understand it. If a woman is sexually happy with a man, she knows that she likes being with men, so most likely, he doesn't have to worry about completely losing her to the other side. The worst that could happen is she becomes bi, which is awesome him.
2006-11-17 09:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by deliannathaniel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess I can understand why they find it a turn on. I once asked a guy why he thought it was such a turn on and he asked me back "What would you rather see: two girls kissing or two guys kissing?" I, myself, don't find two girls kissing a turn on because I'm not like that, but if I had to choose one, I'd rather see two girls kissing anyday (sorry to those that prefer the latter).
2006-11-17 09:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a one sided point of view on this.
Men are playful with sex matters. It is always nice and even better ... I would say : arousing to watch two women in a state of sexual play.
It is not about gaining or losing someone here. It is more about enjoying beauty of the female body and the lust in the sexual feeling.
2006-11-17 09:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea I am not sure why .
I mean isnt it only 2 hot girls usually? Or the fact that they know they cant have any it turns them on??
Hmm....
But yea I mean I don't like it if some guy asks me to do it. Never have been with another girl one on one.
Not sure about losing it to the other side...
Im strictly dickly and have been for sometime..
2006-11-17 09:44:01 · answer #8 · answered by buterflikizes20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My former wife needed no encouragement, it was she who brought the subject up to me. People are who they are, and most of us I think know what would make us happy or please us. Her suggestion so I went along with it secretly shouting YAHOO!! in my mind. A few encounters later and things went back to "normal".
As far as losing her to the other team, as I said, people are what they are and if something is already in place, it will surface sooner or later. What is important is the bond that exists between people in a relationship.
As it turned out, we split up, it had nothing to do with our experimentation and everything to do with her mental disorders and substance abuse. So there ya go...you never know.
2006-11-17 09:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by Rich B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is more of a fantasy than anything. I would never encourage my wife to do that, I wouldn't share her with anyone!
2006-11-17 09:42:39 · answer #10 · answered by cutcocharles 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋