Ok so, I am 15 and I have had sex with like 10 guys, and like 20 times. I lost my virginity when I was 14. The whole reason y so much is cuz my sister lives in a "ghetto" area. So lots of black guys, not being stereotypical, BUT I LOVE BLACK GUYS, and im white...so yah...well the first time, I was high...so yah...I wasnt rly knowing what was going on...I wish I could get back, but I can't. My sister calls me a Hoe all the time, and it pisses me off, and i tell her that. But w/e, she dont stop! I also do oral sex btw..just fyi...and actually I could have had WAY more sex. And that Lyfe Jennings with that S.E.X. song, yah it doesnt help. And out of those guys, not one was white, ALL black...if u didnt notice i am just saying random stuff now, but seriously help me, what do i tell my sister, and to stop talking to her is NOT an option. PLEASE tell the truth!!! what you think, SAY!!!
2006-11-17 09:39:11 · 38 answers · asked by basketball_69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU NEED HELP AND SHOULD GET HELP BEFORE YOU CATCH SOMETHING AND PASS IT ON TO OTHERS.
2006-11-17 09:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by oaparicio2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your sexual history is not good being that you are only 15. There are woman my age that have not had sex with that many guys or with just about that many. Sex is not suppose to be something you give away so willingly. Thats not to say as I'm sure you know that it isn't good and white or black it makes no difference. Your sister is bothered by your indiscretion of sexual partners which is why she makes those types of comments. The only way to get her to stop is for you to stop. Have some respect for yourself. You are more than just a thing for these guys to have sex with. Ghetto or not. You are a person with feelings and you deserve to be with someone that treats you in such a manner. You cannot demand respect from others especially your sister unless you respect yourself. You cannot respect yourself by having random sex with all of these guys in such a manner. So take a haitus, meaning stop and find yourself and what you think of yourself. Then you will find someone that respects you and you will see the sex will be much different than the sex you are having now. Trust me if you think it is good now, try having it with someone you love!! When you change your actions regarding sex your sister will also see that and be forced to stop calling you a hoe. This bothers you because deep down you may be feeling the same. No way to erase your history, but the good part about life is that you don't have to erase it, you can just start doing things differently. Yes people will try to coerce you and for a long time will think you are the same but eventually you will loose that name or reputation and have one that you can be proud of. So most importantly don't think you are a horrible person. For whatever reason these have been your actions of the past and that is exactly what you can say to someone if confronted about it. You are important and deserve all thats good in life. Good luck and I wish you the best!!
2006-11-17 09:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by Elvira 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly I think you need counseling. There is obviously a reason you feel like you need to sleep with all these guys. BTW....what are you doing smoking weed or whatever you did to get high when you are only 15?
Im white and not from the ghetto, but how come you feel like because you are from the ghetto that you HAVE to be this way???? You should be trying to achieve higher things in life than running a marathon trying to win the "I got the most STD's before I was 18" trophy.
I feel for you if your question is true.
Get some help.
2006-11-17 09:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by LittleItaly'sLoveGoddess 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being 15 and having been with so many guys YEA i would consider you a hoe.. but who am i to judge i dont know you. Just because you're in that kind of environment doesnt give you any reason to say thats the reason why you're having sex with all the guys in the neighborhood. I'm 21 and when i was younger i lived with my older sister, she was with different guys all the time and we lived in a "ghetto hood and it was tempting to listen to all the stupid guys out there trying to get you to have sex with them but I never gave in because I knew better. I loved myself more than that and that's not what i wanted for myself. I've only been with one guy in my life and we've been together for more than 4 years. This is what i wanted for myself. It's not too late for you to change your ways before you catch an STD or HIV cuz you never know who has what out there. You're too young for all that. As for your sister, if I were you I would tell her that if she thinks that way about you she should act like your big sister and help you cuz it's not going to be easy to deal with the rumors that will go on about you and for you to change your ways instead of just looking down at you because of what you're doing. Tell her "instead of criticizing me, help me"
2006-11-17 09:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by Priscilla I 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not going to call you names because that is wrong. But I will say that you need someone to set an example with you. You need to be brought to a hospital and see people dying with AIDS and hopefully you will open your eyes. You are way too young to be having sex with so many guys. They will not respect you!!! I can't imagine, even at my age of 34, of ever having sex that many times at that age. Nor could I imagine my daughter at 17 doing such.This is not anything to be proud of!!! YOU should get yourself better educated and worry about your future and be proud of that. As with the behavior you are chosing at the time,...you may not have a future. I feel your sister is just trying to open your eyes. You need to!!!!
2006-11-17 09:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Dana A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you're living very dangerously.You're leaving youself wide open to any number of STDs and/or pregnancy! If what you're saying is true, I'll be willing to bet you're not using protection all the time. You keep it up, and you're likely to ruin your very young life. And at your age you'll certainly be labeled a ho by your peers.
You're probably embarassing your sister, too, and it makes her mad.
Do you WANT to be a ho? You don't really sound like it bothers you much, if you're for real. And whether the guys are black or white or asian or latino doesn't have anything to do with it.
I know what SANTA would say....
HO, HO, HO!
Cave
2006-11-17 09:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by caveman 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A hoe is something you dig a hole with. A ho is short slang for whore. So no, you are not a hoe. So, to be a ho, you generally have to charge money to do it. To be a sl-ut, you just do it any where, any time, with any one. You are only doin blak, so you are just confusing like with sex. Talk to the counselor at school and find out why and then just stop doin it. Simple as that. It ain't no fun if it is free. Charge something
2006-11-17 09:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you have a sad life in front of you. I hope you find more meaning to your life. Every girl I ever knew with an attitude like yours was washed up by the time she was 23 and they all regretted their choices. What other interests do you have?
2006-11-17 09:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by Lalalalalala 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are not doing it for money, Technically you are not a hoe. In the 60's you would have been considered free spirited, but with the focus on sexually transmitted diseases, it does throw question on how responsible you are. Sl ut, Skank, easy come to mind, but not hoe.
2006-11-17 09:44:44 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you are a Ho. But that's not what you should be concerned about. My guess is that you are not practicing safe sex all the time. That many partners in oly one year, it's not a matter of IF you will catch an STD, but WHEN you will catch and STD.
Be careful and start liking yourself.
2006-11-17 09:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by jonnyexcel 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think you have unresolved issues that need addressing. Ask someone for help, a school counselor, doctor, or pastor. You are going to end up sick, incarcerated or dead if you keep this up! Don't worry about your sister right now, worry about you! Good luck and God bless!
2006-11-17 09:42:59 · answer #11 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋