What can I do to cheer myself up..fast?

Question

I have been depressed for several months, and I hardly find joy in anything these days. As soon as I get a little closer to being happy, my boyfriend announces that we should break up. We have a very intense relationship, and I am emotionally dependent on him. My friends suggest I go out clubbing and date around.. I have not felt like myself in months, what should I do?

Answer 1

i do not think there is a quick cure to cheer yourself up fast. if it took several months to feeling this way you cant expect to feel good suddenly. there is probably something in your life bothering you, to make u feel this way. perhaps it is your intense relationship that causes you this distress. you say you are emotionally depend ant on him. if u expect for him to make yourself feel better, it doen"t aways work that way. your happiness has to come from you, although a relationship can make you feel better about yourself it is not the only answer to your problems. if u are not happy about yourself then no one can make you happy except yourself. your friends say go out and date that probably would be ok. if u still have your relationship with your boyfriend, and he changes his mind about breaking up, and u still feel depressed, i might be out of line, but maybe it is your relationship that is the problem. if you boyfriend says "maybe we should break up" often, then that is unfair to you. good luck hope this helps

Answer 2

Very important - SEE A THERAPIST - a soon as possible hun. There is no magic cure for depression (including pills) and yours has lasted long enough to be considered clinical depression. You cannot stay depressed just to hold on to your guy, that would be dishonest and unethical and you cannot base your life on an emotional dependency to someone who does not want to be with you (its a form of emotional blackmail). I do not think clubbing and dating around are the answers right now, though soon, with help, I hope you are able to do those things and get some fun back in your life.

Answer 3

Watch A Couple Of Episodes Of The Following:
1) Tom & Jerry ( A Lil Mindless Violence)
2) Mr. Bean ( The Funniest Brit I Have Ever Seen)
3) Laurel & Hardy ( I Have Just Loved Their Stupid And Funny Incidents)

Answer 4

All I know is that everything happens for a reason, even the things that hurt us the most, like your break-up.

You say you have friends, so right there you are a heck of a lot better off than many depressed people like myself who have virtually or actually no one to help them.

If your boyfriend wants to break-up now when he knows you need him the most, then he doesn't deserve you anyway.

Your depression doesn't seem so severe that it prevents you from doing normal activities, so my 1st recommendation to you is to exercise daily, even (especially) if you don't feel like it, eat 1 or 2 full meals per day or 1 full meal and 2 medium sized meals, drink at least 8 8 oz. glasses of water per day, and pray to God that He will help you through this time.

For many people with moderate or weak depression, exercise every day is the key, because it releases positive thought producing hormones like endorphins and serotonin.

So stay as active as possible during the day and spend a little time alone as possible, because that is when you will start thinking those negative thoughts that fuel depression.

God bless and heal you.

Answer 5

Well, I would first take a long look in the mirror at myself. Then ask myself why am I depending on him so much. I am not crazy, I am not on pills or mental drugs. Let me get up and get myself together. I need some other fun activities in my life. I like to dance so why don't I go out with some real good friends to dance. I could call up my best girl friend an we could go to the beauty parlor,have our hair done,our nails done and maybe a pedicure. Some message parlors are really great at making you feel real good. If you are young ,now is the time to enjoy your life.
Do not let him take power over your mind. There are some other really nice young men out there who would love to take you out and be good to you without making you feel like a door mat. So girlfriend go for it. Stay Blessed!

Answer 6

There are meds for depression, which will help a little.

My choice for a situation like that is: Leave him. Go do something nice for someone else. Seriously. Do something good or kind for someone you know can't pay you back. Give to a charity. Go to your local homeless shelter next week and help serve the Thanksgiving dinner. You'll feel soooo good! And you'll make some friends, too.

Answer 7

I found a great remedy to cheer me up, to give me energy and you will find it so simple and easy, that you will want to do it on a daily bases. It is called cold showing. Take a heater or turn your thermostat up so the bathroom is warm. This is a must. Then step in show until the water feels warm. This takes some time. But soon the water feels warm and your body is now being cleansed.You will find you become renewed and feeling great.

Answer 8

You are a true bipolar and you make the best love slaves. Many guys want to find one. The bipolar love affair can explode easily but is more intense than anything the winner-players can produce. Enjoy the ride girl. You can recover later. I'll tell you how then.

Answer 9

First, get out asap. very imp trust me, i know. Watch borat with friends. Go out for dinner and then clubbing. If you're not feeling the club vibe which I also understand if you're depressed, go somewhere else that yall can have fun not like the mall or anything, someplace else. Go dancing it will help. If you were anything like me, friends borat and dance will help.

Answer 10

Be happy you are in a relationship with someone. Also be happy you have friends. Some people don't have either of these things because everybody hates them for no reason.