how come just ANYBODY is able to have kids?

Question

Why is this legal? I know I know, it's too hard to stop girls from having a kids once pregnant, but seriously! When you go to an animal shelter (a good one) they make you fill out an application to ensure you'll be a good pet owner.

I mean, you can have kids before you're legally mature enough to drink! am I the only one who thinks this is a little out of proportion? drinking a beer (or a few too many and being dumb) is totally different than raising a human life! right?

I know there is no solution now, but if they came up with one what would you vote? I say at least 21 to have a kid.

my solution: when you're planning on having a kid (after you're 21) you apply and get approved based on common sense, parenting knowledge, financial situation, etc. Free condoms and birth control methods. Free abortions if needed. And a fine if you are under age and have a kid.

pircsilla- you must have a mother who is younger than 20 or you are the mother

I'm not talking about controlling sex people! that's why I say free birth control!

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again: MY SOLUTION- TAKE A TEST PRIOR TO HAVING A KID THAT TESTS YOUR COMMON SENSE, PARENTING SKILLS, AND FINANCIAL STATE! AND FREE BIRTH CONTROL! and punish those who have a kids prior to being of age

Answer 1

You really stirred the pot with this one. What does it take to be a good parent? You don't know until you are one. Catch 22. There's alot of things you can't do until you're 21. But there's alot of things you can do before you reach that age. It's not a perfect world so you have to learn from your mistakes and move on with your life. If that includes a child then so be it. Very controversial question. People may not like you for doing it but, you still rock. You as well as everyone else is entitled to your opinion. That's why people like you are doing what you do to keep free. Thank you. (Right hand goes up to tip of glasses, hand at a forty-five degree angle, thumb flush against finger) You know the position.

Answer 2

Age doesn't make someone ready to have children! I'm 20 and I was pregnant at 16 and had my first daughter at 17 and my second at 19. I am a damn good mother. And despite how much harder it might have made my life I still graduated high school, a year early at that, and I am giving my daughters a very good life. They are honestly two of the happiest girls you ever would see. There is a wide variety of how people choose to raise there children and why would it be right for 1 application to decide whether you are that kind of parent. Plus, people lie everyday and they would definitely not stop just to fill out an application. To stop girls from getting pregnant they would have to make it illegal to have sex and even then it isn't going to stop anyone. And you are crazy for even suggesting such a thing. Yes, I can say that now I wish I would have waited a while longer, but only so I could have partied more. That's not good either. I look at it like this, by the time my generation are getting ready to have kids mine will be a lot older and I will be able to enjoy a lot of things with them while they are all at home with newborns. Your solution is stupid and insane!!! You need to just promote birth control because what you are suggesting will never happen anyways.

And on your details, i think everyone realizes the terms of the test, but one of them you made clear is the age 21. If you would of said just a test maybe not as many people would have had a problem with it, but you specified that they would have to be 21 to take your stupid test!

Answer 3

I had my first son at 20, and I was married, and still am and Now we are having our 4th child 10 years later. I dont think I would have wanted to have someone making me fill out a form so that I could go back home and have sex and try to make a baby. Especially since I was married and perfectly able mentally and financially to have a child. So I doubt that would ever happen, because everyone is different. Some are more mature than others. Even Free condoms and birthcontrol wouldnt work, because that is not always 100% effective, and Definitley no free abortions. That would just go out of control. Its bad enough now. I am glad I had my first son at 20. Me being able to take care of a child had nothing to do with my age.

Answer 4

The tragedy is that you have to have some kind of license, or trained qualification, for just about anything these days. But when it is anything to do with reproduction, society seems to consider it is unthinkable to even suggest that people should not be free to keep breeding, no matter how unsuitable they are, and how incapable they may be to actually take full responsibility for caring for that child, and raising it, and getting it properly educated. As a result, while we, in America, protest our outrage over the treatment of children in other countries, our own children are being allowed to suffer at the hands of the most horrendous parents or other adult "caregivers" - and child welfare authorities continue to return abused children back into the care of their abusers . On the other side of the coin, extreme "religionists" go on yelling and protesting about ANY effort that is made to control the ridiculous out-of-control breeding of our kind. Apparantly it is far more of a sin to make the perfectly lawful decision to terminate an unwanted pregnancy, than it is to allow that pregnancy to continue, and then abuse or neglect the child you never wanted in the first place. Ohh I know people say "have the child and then have it adopted out". Seems to me the whole adoption system in this country is out of wack too - so people wanting a child are going instead to adopt children from other countries. We can't take care of our overpopulation right here at home, and we go and import more.

Answer 5

This has to be the silliest thing I've ever heard.

How do you suggest the government in force such a rule? I don't think they could at all.

There are bad mothers at 16, 19, 21, 26, 32, and 45 years of age. There are also great mothers around that age. You cannot possibly say you cannot have children--that's a person's right to have children.

If I had it my way "stupid" people wouldn't have children but they do anyway.

Can I ask you a few questions?

What makes you think at 21 a person can be mature enough to raise a child if just a month before they weren't? Is there something else that comes with that age other then a number?


Edit to Add--

Sorry you have issues. Why don't we spend that money on providing better foster care? Why don't we spend that money you suggest spending on this for better hospital care or heck free health insurance for everyone?!?

You have too much time on your hands if you choose to criticize everyone else.

Are you even a mother? Do you even know a young mother?

Answer 6

I think that is a good idea in a very general sense, but put yourself in the other position. How would you feel if someone told you that you failed the parenthood test and were not allowed to concieve? You have a good point though. I am all for free birth control and the fine for underage pregnancy, but I do not really like the abortion part. Seems like it would promote abortion as a form of birth control.

Answer 7

I have to say I agree with you, to an extent. I think people should be able to have and raise a child if they can financially provide for the child without assistance from the state or government. I have to also say that the girl "greeneyed" is probably full of crap. I find it hard to believe that two people with almost genius IQ's decided it was appropriate to marry as teenagers and bring a child into this world. If people can have a child without living off the system, then it's OK by me at any age.

Answer 8

Girl Im pregnant but I totally agree w/u! Not just anybody should have kids but b/c the world is so highly pop. due to this this is why they have child services etc. I believe its a hard situation but that person has to or should have the responsibility to make the decision to keep it/put of for adoption or whatever they believe in. Don't stress life is to short. But if u r stressing b/c u cant have kids yourself there are other solutions so u can have a kid/kids

Answer 9

Well you raise good points and a lot of restriction, and I don't want to go into a full blown debate, BUT I do not think you should be over 21 to have a child. I know women, including myself who have made excellent parents to children who weren't 21 when they had them and TONS of people over 21 who are the worst parents a child could have. Age shouldn't have to do with it, responsibility, maturity and financial status(enough to live on for two/three people) should.

Answer 10

Not anyone is immature under the age of 21. Kids get imacipated before they turn 18 by a judge. I see people over 21 that act like there 12.