Sorry if this is graphic...Ok, so my fiance loves oral. I have no problem giving, he has been tested clean (so dont worry about that), and I love it just because I like to make him happy. Well, when that time comes for him to ***, I will swallow for him. But he is a smoker, and when he smokes, I literally cannot stand what it tastes like. It makes me sick. I dont like the fact that he smokes and I have asked him to quit. He has promised me over and over he will quit, but months later, he isnt even close. So I decided that until he stops smoking, I will not give him oral. He thinks its unfair, but I dont think so. Is it wrong for me to do this?
2006-11-17 09:26:58 · 15 answers · asked by swtgrl84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesnt give me oral, but thats because I dont really want him too, i know...im weird haha
2006-11-17 09:31:14 · update #1
That's an awesome deal! Hope it works out!
2006-11-17 09:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by Bob_123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one should do anything sexually that they find disgusting. And if you don't want oral from him, why should that be anybody else's business.
Let him know this is about you, not about him. Don't use this as a punishment for smoking - just tell him it tastes disgusting and makes you feel sick so you're not doing it. Period. No negotiations. It is perverse for anyone to expect a lover to do something sickening. If he cares for you, he won't want you to do anything you find offensive.
Quiting smoking is hard. But choices have consequences, and he chose to start smoking. Now he has another choice - quit smoking or no more bj's unless he uses a condom. Offer a hand job instead. But don't so anything sexual that really bothers you. You are in control of your own sex life, and nobody has the right to require you to go against what you want.
2006-11-17 09:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by Maple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is right to punish him for smoking. It is an addiction. Trust me, you don't want him to stop smoking because you are making him. He will be very grumpy. Much more so than if he quits on his own. Try to help him quit but don't force the issue. Using oral as a barter is only going to hurt you in the long run.
2006-11-17 09:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by deliannathaniel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crazy. Stop giving him oral until he stops smoking. If he keeps making and breaking promises while getting what he wants, there's no reason to change. Life is unfair, boo hoo. But so is doing something that makes you sick when you don't have to.
2006-11-17 09:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be curious as to where CPO's are referring to themselves as "warriors"... Then again, as an AW1 (E-6) who then went to Ensign (OE-1) via the Aviation Operations LDO program... I knew several AWC's who were "warriors" !! Particularly those who were SAR Swimmers / Door-gunners. Of course there are ALWAYS those who hit E-7 who become too wide to fit thru an escape trunk... or become political creatures who love their "collateral-duties" more than their true NEC. As PRT coordinator at two commands I FAILED 4 different CPO's... they went off to the "fat-farm" at Mirimar, and only 2 of them came out. Your little rant is not a question, but a statement... and a generalization. Oh I have the Purple Heart, Air Medal (9x +V), the Navy//Marine Medal, Combat Action Ribbon... I'm a warrior who likes to return to a rack, a shower, and a non-MRE meal each night... but a warrior just the same.
2016-05-21 23:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are weird for not having him give you oral and its also weird that you give oral without getting it. As far as withholding oral so he will stop smoking, your wrong. Didn't he smoke when you met him ? and haven't you been giving oral ?? If your problem is that it tastes bad dont swallow. Withholding sex to get your way is not right.
2006-11-17 09:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UGH... I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN... Yea, there are also supplements such as vitamins and stuff that make it taste really bad too... Dont know how to fix it. For your situation, tell him you'll stop swallowing if he doesnt quit smoking! I THINK YOUR RIGHT ON TOP OF IT! If it disgusts you, you shouldnt do it! If he cant deal with it, Good luck finding a girl who will want to swallow when hes got funky spunk!
2006-11-17 09:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No u have every right not to want to do that - but don't you think in a million years that there is no one out there that don't mind the taste of his n*u*T* with or without the smoking. So don't get your feelings hurt when he stop asking you.
2006-11-17 09:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by FeeLnUFeeLnMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you! Unfortunately, it isn't just smoking - any form of tobacco in the system creates a NASTY flavor, and it takes awhile for it to flush out of their system.
There are other items that create a bad taste. For me, eggs and asparagus are yucky too.
Luckily, my boyfriend isn't a tobacco user. And if he wants me to perform for him, he knows by now what foods to avoid.
2006-11-17 09:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by 40yomama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a girlfriend do the same thing. I quit smoking, she got back to blowing, all was good.
2006-11-17 09:31:14 · answer #10 · answered by jonnyexcel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋