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Question

I’m depressed and lonely, evem if I have a baby and a husband. I’m afraid for my child I’m afraid of wht the world holds for my child as I don’t think there’s anything here for us. This world is evil and cruel and if you don’t have the right sort of mentallit or drive there’s nothing here for you. What’s wrong with me is that I have no drive or dissapline to make anything of myself. I have no friends, never have really and I hate and distrust mostly everyone. I’m afraid this will affect my child. I don’t know what to do, I try so hard but I don’t have the willpower. I wish there was more, I wish I was happier and not just stupidly content. I’m so sad and pathetic. I hate who I am I wish I was a better person. Why is there nothing for me. Help me please someone. Help I’m pathetic.

Answer 1

http://www.pac-connection.com

The people here will help you. This is a free peer based support group. You need some people to talk to. Please also talk to your doctor or even the babies doctor as soon as possible.

Life does not have to be this way hun.

Answer 2

With the state you're in, you're better off giving up your baby for adoption, since you are obviously in no condition to be raising a baby.

I am depressed too, but am now slowly overcoming it mostly with the help of antidepressant meds and some counseling, and I know for a fact that if I can do it anyone can, including you.

Before doing anything else, you need to get professional help and get a good psychiatrist to talk to weekly and start taking antidepressants as well.

Then start praying, even if you don't currently believe in God or religion, He believes in you and will get you through this time like He did for me.

You're only as pathetic as you think you are.

You are thinking about your depression as a depressed person, so of course your impression of yourself will not be good.

Remember, depression is NOT your fault at all, just like most other diseases.

As soon as possible, you need to create a support group for yourself, either with people at your job, in your church, in your family, or just by finding a depression recovery group in the phonebook, like an AA group for depressed people.

No matter what you think of yourself, you are valuable and unique, and the more time you spend around other people who show you and tell you that, the more you will be able to realize it for yourself.

God bless and heal you.

Answer 3

Honestly honey, you need to get you some help. You also need to talk to your husband about how you are feeling.He married you in sickness and in health and that includes mental. Also, this might sound like a cliche,but you need to find Jesus and a good church. That will help you to find HIM and show you some good in yourself. You are having a rough patch. i have been there. i have 3 kids and was in the same place as you, I thought of ending it all and then I found Jesus and the Almighty. It has made a world of difference in my life. Not saying it is perfect, I still get mad and have things I can not handle, but when that happens I ask Jesus to help me find the path I need to be on and the strength to get through it. You have a child to be strong for and who needs you to be there for the long haul. Your husband needs you.The world isn't that bad of a place. You have to find the good in it that's all. Look at your child, that is good. Go to a preschool and see the joy in childrens eyes and the pure joy they get at seeing falling leaves, or listening to a story being read. Believe in there innocence and you may be able to find the joy in yours again. You can be a better person if you want to be but you have to want it with all that you are. It is not really hard, but it is a long journey if you do it alone. Seek some help and some guidance.This world is truly a beautiful place if you see it with Jesus in your heart, and it holds many possibilities for your child. Don't give up. As with the other lady, I am going to give you my email address, you write me at anytime you are feelling low and I promise that I will answer. I will not let you go it alone and without a friend. [e-mail] God Be WIth You. I am praying for you and that you find your way.

Answer 4

I think sometimes we get so wrapped up in being a wife, mother, daughter, student, whatever roles we take on that we forget the most important one of all.....ourselves....I spent several years severely depressed where I hardly saw the two friends I did have or my family, I was happy to be a mother and loved my son dearly I also loved my boyfriend, but had lost all sense of myself and didn't want to be around anyone. I had no goals no ambitions, like you said I was stupidly content. Or what I thought was being content. It was hard for me to even stay out of bed, I didn't feel like I fit in anywhere, I felt that people took advantage of my kindness and the person I was, I lived what little life I had through my computer.......I decided one day that there was more for me than this...that I didn't want my son to see me this way when he got older.....I changed my life completely...I don't know what it was....maybe it was God...I started to find myself again....my advice is to find just one thing you enjoy doing...one thing that makes you feel proud and try to share that with someone..maybe join a group or take a class..you may be surprised at what else you find that can gives you confidence and helps you reclaim your life.... I would also suggest maybe trying counseling if you need help from someone who understands

Answer 5

I feel the same way u do only I'm not married & no kids but even then I sympathize w/ how u feel yes, there's more to life but its hard w/o money & education but u know what I don't believe theres nothing for u...its just that I think we have to discover what that is which make life more fun and adventuresome. Its not always going to be a happy moment but we have to look at the bright side and keep looking never giving up because eventually it'll get better. I hope things get better for u if not I will be ur friend really becuz I know how u feel, u can email me: anna_kathrina99@yahoo.

Answer 6

See a psychologist or psychiatrist. The sooner the better. Sometimes depression itself does not allow you to see how this would even make a difference or be helpful. If there's ONE thing you need to push yourself to do AND accomplish, it's this one (to see a professional...soon). And you're not alone...about 16 % of the population could qualify for a diagnosis of some sort of depression at some point in their lives. When people are very depressed they think exactly like you do. But we live in a world--and especially in the U.S. (don't know where you are)-- where one is only encouraged to talk about the positive, to be boastful, and to project an "image" of success and accomplishment. Well, the truth is quite different for a great many people! But you don't hear or see them for the reasons I said....They keep quiet.

Answer 7

First of all, try to count ur blessings: u have a husband & a baby. Ur right, u need to get urself together for the sake of ur family. It sounds like ur in a rut, but never fear, this too will pass. I have a couple suggestions for u. First, do u know Jesus? Find out about Him at http://www.billygraham.org There is something for every one of us, no matter how insignificant it may seem to u!
Second, I agree that this world is evil, but I am convinced that there is still some good among us. I used to think like u, but I have found that there r good ppl in this world.

Answer 8

I like what drorganic said. I would also suggest taking an herb called Kava or Kava Kava. I started taking it and I can really tell a difference in my perception of things. When I don't take it just the simple act of washing the dishes seems sooooooo overwhelming that I just can't follow through. When I take it , it doesn't look that way to me.

Answer 9

You need to go and speak to a professional and no.. you should not have a child at this time in your life.

Answer 10

que paso Billy M,

Im a natural health practitioner and I treat this issue countless of times with chronicaly Ill patients and people battling obesity, it has nothing to do with willpower, nothing to do with lack of discipline or distrust or other issues you mentioned.

Quite frankly I easily spotted the root of it in the words you used to describe YOU, sad and pathetic are your representations of you and these reflect a common problem that can easily be corrected........LIMITING THOUGHTS.

Billy M or whomever you may be cuase you mention a husban and child, well whatever the case, you need to be aware that you have 2 minds.......your conscious and your SUBCONSCIOUS and over your lifetime you have accumulated a whole lot of NEGATIVE LIMITING THOUGHTS stored in your subconscious that are only completing the task that you have permited.

Le me explain, the SUBCONSCIOUS is a computer like part of our brain, its task is to perform the thoughts, visions and objects that DOMINATE that part of the brain, if you listen to high achievers wether in sports, business or any other field, these top performers inevitably use words such as ...VISION; DREAM; SAW MYSELF; NEVER LOST SIGHT etc etc of whatever goal they reached at the top of their field.

What they refer to is the SUBCONSCIENCE, our subconscience does not know left from right, nor up from down, nor does it distinguish day from night, it wont argue with a thought and wont reason anything, its only function is to complete to the best of its ability the VISION and THOUGHTS dominating that section of the mind, and in your case Billy, its done its job perfectly well, youve constantly allowed negative messages to be programed in your SUBCONSCIENCE and the result is your mood, image, self worth and "feelings" of failure and lonelyness have been harvested to dominate your every wakig second.

Your subconscious never sleeps so if you do not accept the fact that these negative programmed messages reside in there, they will keep doing their assigned task even while you sleep.

The solution?..........reprogram it.

Basicaly Billy, the advertising industry gave us the perfect insight and plan as to how the subconscious works......for example, what is the slogan for LAYS POTATO CHIPS?.........COCA COLA?..........NIKE?............MASTER CARD?......im sure within a few seconds these slogans come to your conscious, however to get those programmed slogans one doesnt have to comit them to memory like you would school homework, these slogans became imbedded in there as result of a technique called........AFFIRMATIONS..........which is basicaly repeating the same message over and over until it just seeps in the subconscious and as the ad agencies hope, influences your buying decisions by the images, color, music and slogans of their products.

The same happens in our everyday life, we are constantly bombarded by affirmations, via music lyrics, commercials, radio spots, books, newspapers, magazine covers, politicians, religion, myths, friends, family, bosses, virtualy any one or anything you come in contact with on a daily basis has the ability to impress an affirmation on you.

If a parent tells their child every single hour of every single day that they are stupid and worthless, what chance do you think that child has in becoming a productive and balanced adult?? Billy adults are no different.

There is a technique I use with my patients that EASILY shows them their own LIMITING THOUGHTS hidden inside their subconscious and once we have those thoughts out in the open we now work on getting rid of the through affirmations.

So the deal is to assure that you only ALLOW affirmations that shape and form YOUR life the way YOU want it to be, YOU have the control Billy to make sure you are getting and programming affirmations in harmony with your life the way you want to live it.

Do a word search on Yahoo, affirmation web sites are all over the place, get books on the workings of the subconscience, become pro active Billy, take control of your health, your mental health and your furture by being conscious that you have a SUBCONSCIOUS.....and teach your child the same.

Live healthy amigo,
drorganico