What happens nxt?Serious answers only pls...all advice appreciated...?

Question

I(I’m a male) told my close female friend how I felt about her and she said we should remain friends.She said it wouldn't feel right going further.

She said she don't deserve my feelings---meaning??
Said she can’t imagine me not being in\part of her life---this mean anything???

We left on good terms,agreeing to remain friends always.After this happened I went quiet on her for over a week to clear my head!She txt me once asking why I went quiet and also txt my mate asking him. I got bck in touch on Monday and her reply mentioned nothing bout what I said(how I felt about her).

I txt her saying how impt the friendship is to me and apologised if I made her feel uncomfortable and hope that we’re cool.Why hasn’t she txt bck for over a day now??(we’re usually in touch everyday!)I say anything wrong?

Would she be feeling odd??Behave differently towards me??Anyone been in this situation themselves?If so,what happened?

Why has she suddenly gone quiet on me??She missing me??

What should I do???

Not txt bck for 3 days now-sorry for mistake,in touch usually every 2 days!Thats why I'm concerned....

Answer 1

wow...i am actually in the same situation, i told this guy that i still have feelings for him (he has a girlfriend at the moment), but i told him that our friendship was the most important thing to me.
she probably does have feelings for you, but for some reason or another doesn't feel like you should take it farther...maybe in fear of losing you if something did happen between you two.
just give her some time, but do NOT give up, keep texting her, keep trying to talk to her, but maybe....try and act like things didn't really happen, like....just act how you did before you told her.
but if your friendship means as much to her as it does to you, then she will contact you and talk to you and such, and right now she is probably just taking some time to figure things out for herself and where she wants to stand in the situation

Answer 2

She said she doesn't deserve your feelings because she thinks you are a great guy, but only likes you as a friend. Since she doesn't feel the same, she doesn't deserve your feelings because all girls want their great guy friends who they love (as friends) to be with someone who thinks they are great, in that way. The you are great thing is also the reason she doesn't want you out of her life. Sounds like you both got slightly uncomfortable after the big reveal. You both thought things were cool, but then you freaked out a bit for a week then your silence freaked her out. She tried to make things normal again and you ignored her, so when you replied she is now slightly ignoring you, maybe her feelings were hurt because you said you talk everyday, but you snubbed her for a week! Don't rely on text, that is the easy way out and it only distancing you two further. Call her and ask if you can go get a bite or if she wants to come hang out (only if that's something you've done before, you don't want her to think that you are still pulling for a date). Then TALK! Not about the issue at hand, talk like normal and reassure her (with your actions) that things are normal.

This is all assuming that during your week break you figured out that you still can be friends with her. If it's going to be too hard because you really care about her more than a friend, like if you'll be jealous if she talks to other guys, etc., then maybe it's time to part ways.

Answer 3

Sorry, but I have never been in this situation. But you should just wait for like a week or so...or until she text back, because if you keep on texting her and what not, it's going to make you look like you're obsessed, and that you can't live with out her. OR you could send her ONE text (unless its long and take two), and tell her you are sorry, and you didnt mean to make her feel awkward and whatever else. But don't keep on going about it. Try to go do something this weekend with some friends, keep your mind off of it, even if it's hard to do. Because a week seems like a long time but its really not. What makes it seem longer is constantly thinking about it. So go rent some movies on like Sunday, that way during the week if you start thinking about her you can just watch a movie. And then when she does text you will be like, whoa that was fast, even tho it was like a week. (if you dont like movies then something else) It would be fine to maybe text her once a day, just so she knows you are not ignoring her, and that she knows you still want to be friends and talk. But don't say something that like How are you? Or did you sleep well? just be like, Hi, have a good day! dont say something she has to reply to!!!

Answer 4

Ok, here's what you do! Tell her that's it not right that you two remain friends because you won't be able to move on to someone else. So say that you would rather end your friendship. And seriously stop calling her (start ending your friendship). Because right now, she's in a very comfortable place where she knows she has you and can take you whenever she wants. She can even use you as a last resort if she wants to.

If she's smart, she'll come around and decide that dating is a good idea. If not, she's going to lose you. End of story.

Answer 5

It probably took her by surprise that you felt this way (especially if she had no idea) yes, it probably scared her and made her feel uncomfortable. Maybe she feels like she mislead you and now feels that distancing herself from you will keep that from happening. Don't put too much pressure on her or she'll walk away entirely, give it a little bit of time. She'll come around. Of course she misses you, your her friend. It's hard when you feel such a powerful feeling for someone but.. you cannot make them love you no matter how much you love them. Take enjoyment in your friendship and love her as a friend. Respect her decision and she will respect you more in the long run.

Answer 6

When she says she doesn't deserve your feelings she thinks you are to good for her that you need someone better, then the other part about not imaging you being there it means she needs you in her life...not sure if in a brother way...but she may have feelings just she is afriad of what will happen if you guys broke up how would your friendship be put together

Answer 7

The first thing a woman needs is space, let her clear her head, women believe if you love them you understand that.

When you text her all the time, your rushing her, friendship or relationship, no woman likes being rushed.

If she does not text you within 3-4 days, then you could txt her on the fourth night (at night 7-8ish)

Only send one text though and if she does not reply then I'm afraid you have lost her friendship.

Answer 8

you have placed her in slightly bit a catch 22 situation. This became into something she needless to say hadn't realised. From her reaction i assume she wasn't awaiting your advances. precise now she's thinking of what she did to lead you on and, if she seen you to be basically friends, she's stressful approximately how she stumbled directly to you and petrified of your reaction (i.e going quiet). do no longer tension, she'll be returned in touch interior of an afternoon or 2 yet do no longer anticipate it to be returned to commonplace for a mutually as (from journey my chum). do no longer attempt and tension her into any sort of answer, cos if she needed a relationship with you she'd have suggested there and then. supply her the time she needs to think of over. in case you experience the way approximately her i think of you do then she merits slightly bit area to mull it over. If that's precise it is going to ensue, no count number if that's no longer it won't - even with the undeniable fact that it is not as much as you at the instant could be it?

Answer 9

She sounds as though she does not have much self confidence- No you didn't say anything wrong but she will act different because she doesn't want to "lead you on" So give her some time to text you She will be in touch-In the mean time still let her know that you are her friend......Good Luck**

Answer 10

get over the fact she wants you as a mate.............but mates are seriously hard to come by so id be happy with that
most guys confuse mateship with loveship explain this and enjoy having a best mate even though shes a girl!!


worst of all she could set you up with a g/f of hers

and then become jealous of her and pin ya down an rip off all your clothes