It's a very very long story, but basically for many reasons me and a girl haven't spoken for some time now. We were friends for a very long time, but through most of that time I had strong feelings for her. She always knew that and on more than one occassion led me on a bit giving me the impression she liked me more than just as a friend. Eventually she emailed me to say she doesn't want to see me ever again, which broke my heart. Luckily I went to university just over a week later so had so much going on it helped me to not think too much about her. The last couple of weeks the whole excitement of uni has died down quite a bit and I get very bored sometimes and don't bond too well with me housemates as we are all very different people. Because of all this I have started to think of this girl a lot more again and really miss her. She is at a uni not far from me and it is so hard at times. I know deep down she doesn't want to see hear from me again but i'm just very sad about it still.
2006-11-17 08:58:15 · 8 answers · asked by Mr looking for answers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Drop her an email, nothing too heavy, asking how she is, hope she has settled into uni, Tell her that you miss your chats. If she doesnt respond then this is a clear sign that she has moved on and you need to try and put it behind you, i know this is easier said then done but you will get over it in time trust me!!
2006-11-20 00:00:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jumble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like maybe you're homesick rather than missing this particular girl? You're craving the familiar in an unfamiliar setting now that things have "settled " in uni . On the other hand , it seems a bit odd that she emailed you to say she never wanted to see you again after being friends for so long......are you sure that it's as straightforward as you think? Could it be she was fed up of waiting for you to "make the first move" ? You will only ever know by contacting her......why not write a chatty light -hearted letter or e-mail to break the ice , and take it from there? Good Luck !!
2006-11-17 09:06:34 · answer #2 · answered by honeychile72000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may feel the same way as you do but because you were both going to uni, she decided a clean break would be best as you would both be living differnt lives? Having said that, Im not sure if you are both in 1st year and left for uni at the same time. The fact that she led you on giving you mixed signals can be common in some woman. She maybe got an ego boost knowing how you felt about her and she flirted with you when she shouldnt have. Im female by the way, and know that a lot of woman can act this way. Having said that, guys do it to. Not sure how you should play this one! If you can face it, maybe you should tell her straight how you feel again and if she doesnt feel the same, then at least you will know for sure once and for all and move on! Best of luck to you!!! It hurts like hell to want someone who doesnt want you!
2006-11-17 09:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by enigma64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you find another girl who treats you better than this one, she will be history and you will have only thoughts for the new girl in your life!! Because the novelty of uni has worn off your are reminising about 'Old times' and this girl is from them times!! You are made of stronger stuff than that so come on, get yaself into town and woo some of the ladies! The right girl is out there waiting for you!! My thoughts are with you and best wishes with uni!!
2006-11-17 09:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a year of trying to get over a girl so I can see where your coming from.
The main question is why does she not wants to see you?
Feel free to send me an email if you want to talk and we can talk it through.
2006-11-17 09:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by Michelino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't waste your life longing for someone you cant have i know from years of experience i am fifty now but it took years of heart ache to find the right man there is someone out there for you good luck
2006-11-17 09:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a life, there are many more fishes in the sea
2006-11-17 09:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. or try to talk to her. tell her how you feel. ;)
2006-11-17 09:00:15 · answer #8 · answered by Grasshopper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋