Is it okay to divorce then? What if you have tried everything to make him better and there is no hope for him? Should the wife stay and put up with it or can she divorce him and marry someone who can make her happy?
2006-11-17 08:40:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Remember, divorce wasn't legal until not too long ago.
It ruins the sanctity of marriage!
2006-11-17 08:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by Seth 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
According to the Bible, the only reason for a divorce with a view towards remarrying in the Christian congregation is adultery. That certainly does not mean that an abused wife should stay and work it out with a man who hurts her and threatens her life. God would NEVER want a woman to stay in a situation where it has been proven already that an abuser will not change his ways! In this case, the wife can leave and start her own life with any children in the relationship... be seperated in the eyes of the law and God. Should the husband find another sexual partner, the wife can then get her divorce under the grounds of adultery and be free to remarry spiritually. ( This, of course has nothing to do with secularly doing things!)
2006-11-17 08:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by themom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A lot hinges on how one defines abuse. If it is physical, then get the heck out, divorce him and bring him up on assult and battery charges.
Other, milder forms of abuse, if you have tried counselling and it continues anyway, then end it. There is nothing godly about remaining in an abusive relationship.
2006-11-17 08:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by davidscottwoodruff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is hurting you, you need to get away from him. I understand if you feel that divorce may be wrong, but I'm sure God does not want you to remain in an abusive situaion. I'm not sure what the best choice would be regarding divorce, but at least get a legal separation. You can consider divorce later, if you like.
2006-11-17 08:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by jerrri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some factors may help to explain spouse abuse, but they do not excuse it. Put simply, beating one's mate is a gross sin in God's eyes. In his Word, the Bible, we read: "Husbands ought to be loving their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself, for no man ever hated his own flesh; but he feeds and cherishes it, as the Christ also does the congregation."—Ephesians 5:28, 29.
Should the battered wife leave her husband? The Bible does not treat marital separation lightly. At the same time, it does not oblige a battered wife to stay with a man who jeopardizes her health and perhaps her very life. The Christian apostle Paul wrote: "If she should actually depart, let her remain unmarried or else make up again with her husband." (1 Corinthians 7:10-16) Since the Bible does not forbid separation in extreme circumstances, what a woman does in this matter is a personal decision. (Galatians 6:5) No one should coax a wife to leave her husband, but neither should anyone pressure a battered woman to stay with an abusive man when her health, life, and spirituality are threatened.
2006-11-17 08:44:32 · answer #5 · answered by pachequito 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
God hates divorce, but in this case it would be a way to protect yourself. You should remain single, or at least not marry someone you want to marry now.
2006-11-17 08:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by freelancenut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bishop says that it is ok to divorce under these circumstances, Abuse, Addiction, Adultery and Abandonment.
Don't stay with a monster. Get out while you still have your teeth.
Eastern Orthodox Christianity is a good place to heal. We aren't out to prove anything, so we look at things with a little bit more reality and not try to foist lofty ideals into imperfect lives.
You can remarry also in our church. A Priest can give you more details on how.
2006-11-17 08:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by Felicitas 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Nobody would say that Jesus would want someone to stay in marriage like that. There is no hope for that kind of situation. If she can tear herself away, she should get out now and never look back. Hopefully they don't have kids yet.
2006-11-17 08:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by Love Shepherd 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only cowards abuse woman,get away from him now! and request a restraining order,don't be in a hurry to marry someone else....
2006-11-17 08:44:56 · answer #9 · answered by germans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's ok to divorce him. God does not like it when men exercise unrighteous dominion over their families. Any type of abuse qualifies as unrighteous dominion.
2006-11-17 09:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by Tonya in TX - Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they should divorce- that and adultery. If a woman is being physically abused, she needs to get out. BUT she should not re marry. The bible says that if someone divorces they should not re marry- But if your spouse dies, then you can re marry.
2006-11-17 08:42:10 · answer #11 · answered by Mandolyn Monkey Munch 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋