Am I in love with him or just too scared to move on?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend since I was 14..I'm 20 now...we have had a bumpy on and off realationship in the past a lot to do with cheating on each other...recently we've decided to take our realationship to the next level...but I sometimes wonder if the reason why we always stayed together was because I was just too scared of being alone... I think I would always wonder.."What would have happened if we would have stayed together"...Does that happen when you give up on a 6 year relationship? Should I just ignore this feeling and Be happy with HIM?

Answer 1

Only you know if you are truly happy or not, and it sounds like you aren't. Always follow your heart no matter how it leads you, be happy!
Moving on and breaking emotional attatchment can be really hard, but it doesn't sound like your relationship was very stable.
I have had to break off relationships similar to this before, and yes, I will always wonder for the rest of my life~ what would have happened??
But the good thing is that no matter what, there is ALWAYs going to be someone out there so much better for you! I thank myself everyday for following through and doing what I did, or I may not have met my soulmate who today is by my side
Good luck to ya :}

Answer 2

From the sounds of it, you haven't had a chance to really experience dating and seeing if anyone else is out there. At the same time though, you also haven't been alone either. no one can really answer what you should do, only give opinions. Talk to him, make sure you let him know you don't want to break up (unless you want to) but that you want to be sure you are with him for the right reasons. If he truly cares about you, he will understand. you both will be able to work together and figure it out.

Answer 3

Give urself some time alone, detached, then u will know what is right for u and him, for a better future of both of you. U may need to be a lone more than 3 months to get a clear picture.