Ok i know i asked something similar before but some people misunderstood and i shouldve added more details. i am fairly athletic and competitive, polite, am a good listener, can hold an intelligent convo, like to make people laugh or just cheer them up, would like to think im patient with people, love ice cream, animals, and kids, and like to have fun with friends and family. As far as looks, im about average. im about 5'5, 130lbs, a shade darker than caramel and have short dark hair. i dress however i want so that includes most things except for that idiotic miniskirt with uggs fashion that needs to die and i do not dress like a slut. btw im 19 and have never been in a relationship, and no i havent had my first kiss. when i do get attention from guys its almost always dumbasses going nowhere in life. am i doing something wrong that good guys dont look my way?
2006-11-17 08:11:13 · 12 answers · asked by KitKat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, i am not a boring person, though i can be quiet if there is an awkward silence im usually the one who breaks it with some random comment that makes people laugh. i hang out most places excluding bars and stripclubs. im more of a club, fashion show, fundraising event and sports event person.
2006-11-17 08:21:50 · update #1
i do flag football so i have a decent amount of guy friends, and no im not like she-man though i can hold my own, i just try to intercept and sack.
2006-11-17 08:25:06 · update #2
A few things come to mind reading your dilemma. If you're actively trying to get guys' attention and it's not happening, then yes, you're obviously doing something wrong. That's good news! You can change your own errors easily enough. If you were doing everything right and it still wasn't working...well, then you've got a problem because you can't change other people.
Appearance and hygiene are critical. You want a guy of quality? You better fix yourself up to get him. Learn to be impeccable in all you do. That's the easy, shallow part (but books ARE judged by their cover. Part of life, deal with it).
Is there something wrong with your personality? Like someone else asked, "are you rude?" Also, how's your sense of humor? Your ambition? These are all things that can drive decent people away from you. Be optimistic and outgoing as much as you can be.
Finally, just get your butt out there and enjoy yourself. As a discriminating man, I can tell you that the girls I've really enjoyed in my life were always the ones who were simply fun to be around. Hell, find guys that you are attracted to and flat out ask them what they look for in a girl. You'll learn more in a 5 minute conversation than you will asking online. Good luck, girl.
2006-11-17 08:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...you are doing nothing wrong at ALL! just continue being yourself and it is ok if you haven'e been in a relationship, you are very young and have PLENTY of time. Now if you were 40 going on 50, then there would be a problem :) Anyway, try changing the scene a little, go to different places with your friends...a new place to hang out where you can meet interesting and fun people. He will come around when u least expect it.
2006-11-17 08:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by jayjay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as guys are concerned unless you know them most guys are going to go after the best looking girl in the room. If that isn't you, different tactics are necessary.
Get to know more guys as friends. Its like networking. If guys are at that age are going to date somebody that isn't the hotest girl in the room they need a reason. If you become friends with more guys they will get to know the real you and want to date you for that. Also try to be more out going. Young guys typicalaly aren't going to go up to a wall flower and strike up a conversation. But if you are into the flow of whatever situation you meet guys in, then conversations are going to happen.
I know hundreds of couples and it has always led me to believe that there is somebody for everybody out there.
Either that or date older guys that are interested in more than just eye candy.
2006-11-17 08:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by Martin H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In spite of all that self description, you don't say much about what you DO. Where are you when you get attention from dumbasses, and what are you doing there? If you want the good guys to notice you, you first have to be where they are, which is usually where there's something interesting and meaningful to do.
2006-11-17 08:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by Philo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't doing anything wrong. Young men are horny all the time and out looking for the girls with bad reputations to get sex from, they're users.
You sound like a nice girl, stay that way, some man will respect you later on for it.
2006-11-17 08:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the best answer you are going to get. Stop whining, stop sulking and being such a baby. You want a guy? Go get one. Ask someone out that you think is attractive. Stop looking around and waiting. You do that and you will be fine.
2006-11-17 08:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are intimidating to men...are you snoody or rude? That will ahve alot to do with it? There are alot of girls who go through this and then it finally just happens it probably best that you havent experienced those things yet.
2006-11-17 08:14:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there .. you are still very young. It sounds to me like you are doing all the right things. It will happen soon.
2006-11-17 08:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by David C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your intimidating them w/ your looks...take a chance, ask a guy out instead of waiting for them.
2006-11-17 08:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by timmy43410 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not.
There will be someone, someday.
Just not now particularly.
Try flirting a bit more with guys.
It helps. A LOT.
Believe me [=
Good luck! Hope you find someone soon!
2006-11-17 08:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by The girl next door 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋