One man and one woman?

Question

Why does marriage have to be defined as one man, one woman? Why can't we just say the bond of two people in love? I'm an out and proud lesbian. I've been with my partner for almost 3 years now. We want to get married but the law says we can't. We love each other as much as anybody else who wants to be married. Our three year old son already asked why were not married.

Answer 1

I am heterosexual but one of my best friends is a gay man and I have two close friends who are lesbians that have been together for 4 years. I think that if two people are in love, they should have the option of being joined as one just as a man and a woman are. Those opposing it say it's because of the divorce rate or lack of "those type staying together", the divorce rate is high right now with a man and a woman, so what does it matter. I don't ever plan to be married, I have been with my b/f for a while and although I love him, I don't want to get married, that is my choice. If two people want to get married, let them, who cares what their genders are! I am not a real big fan of Brad Pitt, but I give a thumbs up for not wanting to get married until all those wanting to get married are legally allowed to be.

Answer 2

Me and a friend were just talking about this. Why in the hell is this even in the courts. Two people getting married is no else business. If you don't think same sex marriage is right then don't marry some one of the same sex. LOL Simple as that. Who a person marries should be up for discussion by any one. If two people love each other should not have to get permission to marry a person. It just so stupid. I'm a proud christian and yes I believe that woman was put here for man but that's not the point. Not have you heard on TV " Gay marriage Bill declined because God said it was wrong". I think it's just a bunch of homophobic people scared that a gay marriage will turn out better than theirs. LMBAO

Answer 3

Mel, I am very happy that you have found your perfect "somebody". Thinking is changing about same sex marriages, and I competley agree with you. I knew a gay couple, 18 years together, one of them died of a sudden heartache. The one left not only lost the love of his life, but he ending up losing everything they had both worked for. Why, because his children that he had previously was his heirs. They came him and kick this gentleman to the curb, because they did not approve of their Father's lifestyle. They took everything! The only thing thing they couldn't get their hands on was the cars. That's not right, if he had a will things would been different of course, but because he was a man and the laws didn't recognize him as a spouse..he was left without a home, bank accounts, land, and practically everything that they both had worked for. And what was so heartbreaking is that he was refused admittance to the hospital because he was not kin or close relation, the week the gentlemen spent in ICU was spent mostly alone because his partner was again not recognized as such. The nurses let him visit at night, but it was a risk for them, because they could have been fired for going against the hospital policies and the man's "families wishes." That's not right.

I would vote for same sex marriage, and I would agree to reword the the vows to the bond of two people in love. I think a couple should have all rights whether it's a man and woman, two men, or two women. A bond of two people in love, their love is no greater or no less than the traditional old fashion man and woman, and it should be recognized and it should be considered a true union of hearts.

God bless us all...........

Answer 4

Defining marriage as "one man, one woman" is an injustice, that's for sure. And it's not just about love, it's about legal rights!

I think gay couples have every right to be recognized under the law, just as straight "married" couples do.

I say, let the straight couples have "marriage"...and give gay couples "domestic partnership". That way gay partners can have the same rights under the law as straight married people do.

Domestic Partnership was on the ballot here where I live not too long ago...but the way the issue was worded was confusing and misleading...no wonder it did not pass!

Oh, and a little food for thought...did you know that statistically, the lowest incidence of domestic violence is in Lesbian households...Straight married men are the worst at beating up the wife and kids...hmmm...

Answer 5

it is upsetting that the law will not allow same sex marriages, but also remember that our laws of this country were originally based on christian beliefs. I am a christian, but I guess you can say I am a liberal Christian...lol. If you are committed to each other, then regardless of whether you are straight or gay...you should be able to celebrate your commitment just like us. so what if you aren't a man and woman....

the only thing I can think is to go somewhere where they allow it, the only problem is that the state you marry in is the only state that will acknowledge your marriage. So i guess the other option would be maybe have a "commitment" ceremony.

Answer 6

There's no reason for this discrimination, really... Old habits die hard, but they do die. Hang in there, I'm willing to bet that within a decade same-sex marriages will be legalized, and within our lifetimes we'll be looking back at today's "morals" the same way as we now look at the racist traditions from 50 years ago.

Keeping same-sex couples from being married by the state makes no more or less sense than keeping inter-racial couples from being married (which was the case back in the day until people started standing up for human rights). Yes, the religious folks keep bringing up the "god" argument - but, last I checked, we had a loud and clear separation of church and state.

You'll live to see it, I'm sure of it.

Answer 7

I agree with you!!! Marriage should be between two adults who are in love and want to share their lives together.
Some people are just shallow and prejudice.
Don't worry, it'll take a few more years, but it'll be legal everywhere some day. Just think how long it took for minorities and women to have full rights.
Sad world we live in!

Answer 8

and i feel sorry for your children, st helena.

anyway, i think you and your partner should go ahead and have a committment ceremony. it wont be legally binding, but you can still celebrate your commitment to each other.
also, you should visit an attorney and make sure you have wills and other paperwork in case something bad happens to one of you someday. since you cant be legally married you do not automatically have rights in decisions to be made about healthcare.

Answer 9

You can tell your son that you are both committed to each other and that is no different than being married. He won't understand the concept, but at least you'll have an answer for him.

Answer 10

did you adopt your child the reason the law says you cant be married may be because one of you doesnt have the right parts to be man and wife or that is my guess anyways it takes a man and a woman to have a child naturally that is the way its suppose to work. and the people that cant have children naturally ususally adopt as far as a wedding goes you'll have to forgive me but i believe that it should be a man and woman also.