I'm planning a wedding for my friend. She has three female attendants and one male "bridesmaid". She is insistant that the male be a "bridesmaid" as he is really close to her. I have the bridesmaids in blue satin dresses. I couldn't possibly put him in a blue satin suit. I was thinking maybe a dark suit with a blue satin vest but this would match the groomsmen. Any suggestions?
2006-11-17 08:02:58 · 17 answers · asked by Stormie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
LOL I was using "bridesmaid" to make it clear but bridesman is correct. Also I didn't mean suit I meant tux and I think the bridesman's tux should distinguish him from the groomsmen.
2006-11-17 08:34:22 · update #1
You should get him a tux or suit to match the groomsmen and a vest to match the bridesmaids. You should suggest to you friend to maybe think about changing the color of the groomsman's vests and ties so they all don't match.
I planned one wedding where the bride had a guy on her side and the groom had a girl on his side. It was really fun because the bride's male attendant wore a black tux with the vest and tie matching the bridesmaids...then the groom's female attendant wore a black dress, to match the tuxedos, that had a sash around the waist which matched the groomsmen's vests and ties.
2006-11-17 08:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, lets start calling the poor guy a bridesman, not a bridesmaid! :) Secondly, there is nothing wrong with him matching the groomsmen. If you don't want him to, perhaps he can wear a dark suit or tux with a matching dark vest but make his tie blue satin. Lastly, I don't really like seeing the march of the clones at weddings. I like when the wedding party (especially the women) wear coordinated, but different dresses. Good luck!
2006-11-17 08:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by Jaclyn 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That's basically what should happen. His tux/suit SHOULD match those of the groomsmen. The only difference is that he's just standing up for the bride on her side. That's perfectly okay. If you need any other advice, try the website listed below. There's a section called Ask Carley that deals with questions like these.
2006-11-17 08:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by msladyjay81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just put the male bridal attendant in a suit that matches the groomsmen. I think that would look best. He will be standing on the bride's side which will distinguish him as a bridal attendant, there's no need to dress him differently than the other men in the wedding. Whatever the bride wants, I guess, but male friends and family members of the bride used to be ushers and candlelighters rather than bridal attendants. How does the guy feel about it....does he want to be a bridal attendant?
2006-11-17 08:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him a groomsman and he must match the other groomsmen, and stand with them- not the bridesmaids. If he dresses differently from the others, it takes away attention from the groom and draws attention to himself (a HUGE no-no- it's his and yours day) Only the groom himself should be different from them, if at all. Remember, all of the people in the wedding party are considered to support the couple- not just the bride or the groom-so him standing with the other men is appropriate. To do it any other way would be a sleight to the groom, and in poor taste.
2006-11-18 01:25:44 · answer #5 · answered by Spellympics 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A blue satin vest would be fine. I have been to several weddings were that has been done. If it was a woman standing up on the grooms side, the woman in most cases wore a dress simular to the bridesmaids.
2006-11-17 08:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by LizzyK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IMO, him matching the groomsmen would be fine. After all, he plays the same role to the bride as the groomsmen to the groom. A friend of mine had a "man of honor" instead of a "maid of honor" when she got married, and he just wore a tux like the other men in the wedding party. I thought it worked just fine.
2006-11-17 08:16:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should match the groomsman but have a special cravat or boutonniere, just to distinguish him a little. This is not as odd as a wedding I attended where the attendants were the children of the bride and groom from previous marriage and age ranges were 3-10 - it was very cute though.
2006-11-17 08:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a woman and I was once the "best man" at a wedding! Oh was that fun!! You should dress him as a groomsman, but do something different to make him stand out. NO SUITS! It would look ridiculous! (Unless the groomsmen are wearing suits too for some reason) I've planned a few weddings too so if you want to e-mail me, it would be a blast!! Rookprincess@sbcglobal.net
2006-11-17 08:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by jackie_jackie_bo_backie 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Even if she wants him in the wedding party, he should be only a groomsman, on the groom's side, in what the other groomsmen are wearing. Having attendants that are male or female don't mean they totally "belong" to the bride and groom separately, but to the couple.
2006-11-17 13:25:25 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋