My boyfriend and i have been living together over 2yrs and i really have no desire to have sex. He is somewhat understanding but i can tell it bothers him alot. I love him very much but my sexual desire is just not there. We currently have sex about once every 2 months, and i think he wants it more... anyone else like this?
2006-11-17 07:58:34 · 25 answers · asked by ash f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S. I have never had a very active sex-drive
2006-11-17 08:02:15 · update #1
I am 23yrs old
2006-11-17 08:02:42 · update #2
I know you're looking for replies from women, but I can say that my gf and I are going through the same thing.
Speaking from the guy's point of view, with me, I wonder if it's something I did or am not doing. In my situation, I've tried everything and she just doesn't seem to have much interest.
Emotionally...it does hurt him. Even though I trust my fiancee, I can't help but wonder if she's cheating on me, even though I know she's not.
2006-11-17 08:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Lancer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem. Because if you don't satisfy your boyfriend, another woman will. Of course he's frustrated. Sex might not be the reason he's with you, but it can be a reason for him to meet someone else. You need to do something to get on the same page as him. If you don't find him attractive like that anymore, then move on. Meet someone who will bring the freak in you out. I have sex with my boyfriend 3-4x/week. And we've been together for 3 1/2 years. I've never once told him I was not in the mood or had no desire too. He just might not be able to please you the way you need to or vice versa. So talk to someone about your problem b/c it will eventually ruin your relationship.
2006-11-17 16:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most couples especially when they are still dating, have sex about 3-5 times a week. You should go and see a doctor and see what is causing your low sex drive. It might be something that can be fixed. Eventually no matter how great a guy he is, he will wonder off. I had the same thing happen to me.
2006-11-17 16:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by Ihtsb 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can't say I've been there or done that but sex in a sexless relationship is really important. Make time for sex. Try to make it among your top 10 priorities. It will help. When we don't put out, guys start to take it personally. Be honest, let him know what's on your mind. If you're not really into it, DON'T FAKE IT!
2006-11-17 16:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by jackie_jackie_bo_backie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im not like that, but I've been with my husband for 3 years, and over the years we have had sex less often as time goes by... Never longer than 2 weeks at a time tho! Id be careful... men think **sometimes men think** that when we arent giving it up, they are allowed to get it somewhere else. So just be careful!
2006-11-17 16:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you considered the fact that you don't want it because you haven't been pleasured by it. I mean if the both of you are willing to try out some new IDEAS.... then why not experiment. Try something different that you never thought of trying... you might like it and might want more of it... he'll be happy and you'll be pleased. If you need ideas email me... i think this question is too personal to explain in detail. poncegmaria@yahoo.com
2006-11-17 16:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by Mponce 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change your diet do some exercise try some different things. Maybe see your doctor you may have a hormone imbalence. I got to honest sweetie you should be having sex alot more good luck x
2006-11-17 16:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by dizzymooo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you should break up
i've been with my bf for a year and a half and we have sex like 3 to 5 times a week
once a month is not normal
2006-11-17 16:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by sofitaps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what does get you going? What is it that makes you want to have sex those few times? Is it something that he does? Or does it just hit you when your ready? My suggestion. Get him to go down on you. Even when you aren't in the mood. I'm sure it will get you going. Or you could get the Carmen Electra Stripperobics DVD collection. It is alot of fun, great workout without even feeling like one, you feel sexy as hell, and your guy will go WILD!!!!!!!!! That is a great investment trust me! Both of you will get your moneys worth!
2006-11-17 16:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by Snow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never understood this. How can you be attracted to your boyfriend and want to be with him but you don't want sex? Sounds like you're not attracted to him? Attraction, Desire and Sex go hand in hand. Do you ever look at another guy and say to yourself "I'd like to jump his bones"? If so then maybe your guy just isn't doing it for you. I've never been with someone good looking that I didn't want to have sex with. But then I'm a guy. lol
2006-11-17 16:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by Riff Addict 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋