I am constantly thinking of her. She is oblivious to all of this. Any suggestions welcome. I am besotted with the idea that we could take up where we left off. Jim
2006-11-17 07:55:16 · 9 answers · asked by breedgemh_101 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
After all this time the reality may not be quite as romantic as you imagine.......there is little point in disrupting both your lives after all these years!!
2006-11-20 00:21:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jumble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been wrestling with this issue for the last several months. I am 48 years of age. I am celebrating my 10 year anniversary in a few days. I am happily married and content. I dated a girl we will call her GR. This was at the end of high school into the fall. She was a wonderful beautiful girl who really loved me. I sht on her and feel really bad about it. I did not give it a thought for many years until just recently. She was from a very strict household and upbringing. I think she was looking to get out of that environment. I do believe she did truly love me. The timing was bad I was 18 years of age very immature and child like. She was serious and ready for marriage. I was not even close. In fact I did not marry until I was 38 years of age. If the situation was reversed and if not for the timing this girl was a keeper. My wife and her were the 2 greatest women I have ever known. I would like to reach out to her and apologize for my stupidity. The older I get the more sentimental I become and I realize the terrible things I have done to hurt good people. I am truly sorry I only wish she knew it. There is no chance of ever getting back she is married with a family. The very thought is delusional and unrealistic. However I would like to say I am truly sorry and hope she would accept my apology. It would really settle the guilt and my conscience.
2014-11-19 18:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by frank r 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I have those thoughts quite often myself, even though I'm happily married. There's this one man I dated 17 years ago, he's now an Orthopaedist living in the same city I am, which thankfully is large enough I don't ever see him.
I'd say it would be so flattering if an old boyfriend contacted me (and it's happened), but because you're married, I'd say you probably should come clean with your wife if you're going to do it. Needless to say, I've not contacted him and I don't plan on doing so.
Good luck, I don't know if my ramblings will help any but at least you can take comfort in the fact that there is one person who has gone through the same thing.
2006-11-17 16:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by vegetable soup 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should NOT make contact with her,these feelings are probably one sided and that is on your side,just because you aint happy with your situation you do not have the right to screw someone elses up because of your ignorance.
Im not trying to come across as a complete C**t but you need to find out why you are not happy with what you have,look forward not back at what you used to have,because trust me it will not be the same as it was if you did and you will probably not get the welcome that you hoped for.
2006-11-18 18:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she dumped you 30 years ago, you may be setting yourself up to be hurt again.
2006-11-17 16:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact her but realize time changes all things so keep your eyes open
2006-11-17 16:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by nbr660 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sure why not?? you never know maybe she has been thinking of you and if you cant start up where you left off maybe you can have a great friendship that way she would still be a part of your life. hey you never know unless you try!
2006-11-17 16:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by parrotsarenoisy 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i think if you are both settled dont get intouch because you still have feelings for her. if it is meant to be it will one day.
2006-11-17 16:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no no no no no no no no no
2006-11-17 16:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by The Jade Merchant 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋