me to marry him a few months ago and a week before the wedding she called it of im still going with him but he keeps hurting me
2006-11-17 07:41:30 · 19 answers · asked by hotmail 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I know its easy for me to say, but ditch the loser. I have been together with my wife for ten years now and I have never and would never raise one finger to her and I wouldn't expect her to put up with if I ever tried. Also if the beatings are psychological rather than physical, well you shouldn't put up with that either. Marriages and relationships are not always sunshine and flowers, but they shouldn't be torture.
2006-11-17 07:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by Hendo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A week?!
We've all heard of "cold feet" but, did he explain what happened?
And if so, did his explanation make sense to you?
You have to ask yourself what is left of the relationship? Is it really worth carrying on? If he's decided he doesn't want to get married and you're okay with that, fine. But if you still really want to get hitched ...
Does he know he's hurting you? Have you told him? Does he carry on regardless?
If yes to the above, it could be his way of trying to get YOU to finish with him, so he can get his complete freedom, but without any of the guilt associated with leaving someone.
You definitely need to spend some time (on your own if need be), to figure out where you can go from here?
If he can behave that way, after 2 years together, can you really trust him not to behave that way again?
I'm afraid you may need to brace yourself ...
2006-11-17 10:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jamma354 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a severe case of insecurity, maybe you should postpone the wedding and take stock of your relationship and your real feelings for each other. A period apart to cool off wthout the pressure of each others presence may give you both the right direction.
2006-11-17 07:56:33 · answer #3 · answered by david b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not! Why might want to you provide up your virginity to someone your not married to? then you are extra confident of the lifetime courting! i'm completely not putting forward to get married, yet your virginity is something you may purely provide once, and why not wait until eventually you're confident you may provide it to the guy you'll adore for something else of your existence? No, it received't make your courting more suitable, and the years of being aside shouldnt count number. you mustn't provide up your virginity because you isn't waiting to make sure your boyfriend for awhile. Wait until eventually you're married and satisfied and in love, and that is going to likely be a a lot bettter, pleasant, and pleasant adventure ;)
2016-11-29 05:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hurts you now he'll hurt you all your life it's not worth the misery' get out now and find someome who'll love and care for you.Believe me there is someone out there if you've got the patience to wait.Go and have a good time and leave him to someone else who will give a taste of his own medicine.
2006-11-17 07:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by sanny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is one of those "dealbreakers" in relationships. You are probably not going to be able to get over this hurt. Do you think he is going to go through with it sometime? What would stop him from leaving you at the altar again? Nada....
Dump him so you can move on with your life.
2006-11-17 08:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could he ask you to marry him, and also have a girlfriend. You need to dump him as well, and let him know that you are worth a lot more and he just doesn't deserve you
2006-11-17 08:22:24 · answer #7 · answered by Baps . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did he just get cold feet, or is somehing else going on! sounds like your boyfriend isn't really sure of what he wants, have a good talk to him and see where your futures lie with each other!
2006-11-17 07:51:18 · answer #8 · answered by Jo. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy hurt him big time Dump him for making you miserable
2006-11-17 07:44:49 · answer #9 · answered by Ding Dong 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Its not a question to ask complete strangers its one you have to answer for yourself hun sorry hope you make the right chose.
2006-11-17 07:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by cbjdot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋