We have had a lot of obstacles in our realtionship, but now that we have broken up, we still have sex and we live with each other. I left him after we broke up, but we still loved each other. I went back home and got pregnant. I dont have my baby anymore, but anyways he got mad and said we were together when we weren't when it happened. He can't get over it, but we still live like boy/girlfriend which is confusing me. He tells me everyday that we're not together. What should I do?
2006-11-17 07:37:30 · 4 answers · asked by songbirdz03 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You cant live with someone who doesnt love you or want to live with you. Even if you love him. Love is a decision. If he feels that you and he are broken up then you shouldnt be sleeping with him.Dont tell him about it or talk with him about it just start making your plans to move. Or start making plans for him to move. start looking in the papers for apartments that are in his income range. visit the locations, etc.However, its best if you leave, this way you wont be where he left you. Sign up for something that you always wanted to do but havent. Take classes in something difficult for you to do. It may be difficult at first but you and I both know there is nothing that you cant do. Concentrate on your new class or the difficult enterprise while you heal from the separation. After he moves out or you do, you wont be confused anymore. Goodluck.
2006-11-17 09:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question(s) are very confusing. You should really collect your thoughts and get them across more clearly. It will mean you get better answers back.
First, are the reasons you broke up still valid. If they are, you shouldn't get back together. If you live together and still have sex, how is it you believe you are broken up?
If you're not together, then you might seriously consider moving out and ceasing to have sex. That does tend to be the definition of breaking up, in your situation.
Is he using this (saying you two aren't together) to date other people? If so, can you? If you both want to date other people, but still want to stay together, that's possible, though hard work. It's called polyamory.
2006-11-17 15:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him 30 days to move out then read codependent no more. It's a great book and should help you understand yourself and your relationships with the opposite sex. Good luck.
2006-11-17 15:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by Rosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I'm in that same situation I'm praying for a mud slide on his house..........lol I'm just going with the flow right now because I do still have our baby but as soon as he's old enough to be baby sat it's off to the dating pool I go.
2006-11-17 15:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Butler ♥2 B♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋