I am in love with a man in a different country! Should I move there to see if we have a chance at a long term relationship? Or should I just try to move on?
2006-11-17 07:33:50 · 9 answers · asked by Mugsy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Definatly, If its love but who knows even if you get there and its not its experience.
2006-11-17 07:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Tracy T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! Are you serious? Do you have the slightest idea what you might be walking into? It sounds to me as if you have been involved via the internet with some man you have never even met. But whether this is true or not, you would be taking yourself out of familiar territory, and going to a country where the laws are totally different, and your own country could not protect you if something bad happened. You don't say which country, but there are quite a few in which women don't have any rights at all, hardly , and especially if you got married over there, you might discover that you were now virtually your husband's property.
Besides that, if I am right and you have had no interraction with this man except through the internet, and perhaps phone calls, for all you know he might be involved in some kind of sex trafficking ring. What it comes down to is this: You are making a decision to move yourself completely outside of the boundaries of your own country's powers to help you, or come to your rescue if the worst happens. You could get sick, and be at the complete mercy of whatever medical care that country has - and if it turns out that this man is something completely different from the way he has represented himself to you, you could be at his mercy too. I ask you, if this was a horse, would you want to put your betting money on it?
2006-11-17 07:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many questions to answer.
How old are you? How old is he? How long have you known him? HOw did you meet? What is it that you love about him? What do you know about him? Kids? Exes? Financial stability? Police record? Is he paying for you to move? Does he want you to move? Where will you live? What will you do for a living? How much money do YOU have? Does anyone you know know this guy?
Where is your family and his?
How far away are we talking?
Are you so desperate for a relationship that you will move to an unknown place and put yourself in someone's hands? Aren't there any decent guys where you live?
Tell us more. If you met him on the internet, do not move anywhere. If he is more than 2 years older or younger, get to know him better. If he is not the same religion, race, financial level, maturity level, emotional level as you, don't go anywhere. Get to know him better.
If his country is a country in turmoil or a different religion from you, forget it.
Be careful with your life and time--you only get one!
2006-11-17 07:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea unless you are planning on moving there in the future. If you would start a relationship and still be where you are, he could cheat on you anytime and you'd never know and that's exactly what he'd think....or he'd ask you a million times if you're cheating, so there's the start of an unhealthy relationship, which you could only imagine could send your relationship to more unhealthy levels... So no on that, unless you really got to know him well in that time.
2016-05-21 23:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's according on how special this man is, I moved from Vegas to Diego for a man didn't work out but I tried it I wouldn't do it again but hey see for yourself it may work for you. My grandmother did tell me before I moved "You never move for a man if he loves you so much then he'll move to you" I don't know if that's old school thinking but she sure was right in my case. Hope I wasn't a downer just being honest.
2006-11-17 07:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Butler ♥2 B♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try for a long-term relationship BEFORE you move there. Why give up your life to start fresh if you haven't dated that long?
Unless of course, you are independently wealthy. Then I would say by all means, go for it!
2006-11-17 07:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by twest_dgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have a long-term relationship with him already, don't even consider it. Otherwise he might feel like you're stalking him. (Actually, I don't believe in immigrating for a relationship's sake at all. Don't you have your own life at home?)
2006-11-17 11:05:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means move. This will help our population stay in check and keep one more idiot from voting.
2006-11-17 07:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by larry r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you really love him, go for it. But if you just think he is cute and a little nice...let him drop. If he really likes you he would come to you.
2006-11-17 07:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by Just an Actress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋