ok i just said no to a guy that asked me out but he says he still loves me and he knows i like another guy...... now there is a " new" him..... he says that the new him doesnt get mad only hurt i am afraid i did somthing terribly wrong but i dont like him at all what should i do please help
2006-11-17 07:19:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please, PLEASE don't go back to the other guy, even if he says there is a "new him" that doesn't get mad anymore. I have fallen for this time and time again, and there is **never** really a "new" him, only a more guarded, phony him that "acts" like they are new at first and pretends they are nice at first. But then once they get you to go back to them they are just as mean as they were before if not meaner.
If he knows you like another guy, he is trying to use this "new him" technique to get you to go back to him before you do anything with the other guy. It's a huge form of jealousy and possessiveness. He wants you to be his, basically is treating you like he owns you, the whole concept of "you're mine, nobody else can have you."
Believe me, I have lived it before. I don't blame you if you don't like him at all and I am actually glad for you because then that means you should be able to stay strong enough to avoid ever going back out with that other guy.
2006-11-17 07:23:07 · answer #1 · answered by jennnnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the "new" him is a very good person and you should be proud if you had something to do with this change, because obviously he's a good person. If you dont like him dont beat yourself up about it(saying no) , but if it bothers you that much then you should start friendship with him. It wouldn't hurt to be his friend. Would it? Hope that I'm of some help.
2006-11-17 07:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by Shae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hurt by him and you just cant forgive him that easy ,its understanding ,but let him show you his new,let him to prove that he tends to change ,then you may start to feel for him again ,but if you find out that you really dont like his new ,let him know and move on.
2006-11-17 07:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is complete avoidance an option? This dude doesn't sound overly healthy in the mind to me! Sounds like he is trying to guilt you into a relationship!
2006-11-17 07:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by Eric B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i kno how u feel, but dont take pity out on him and go out with him, u dont wanna lead him on, and or give him the wrong idea, just tell him hoe u feel and make him understand that u dont have feelings for him....dont feel bad about it
2006-11-17 07:24:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your still young...dont get tied down to one guy....have fun being young.....You probably dont understand or get anything I just wrote, but you would thank me in 10 years.....
Ohh yeah, tell the guy you dont like to leave you alone. If he dont, tell your DAD.....
2006-11-17 07:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by aubreytaegan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um lemme think........... you dont like him, you like someone else. he'll sooooon get over you. dont make a sacrifice for some other guy. stick to your heart girl!!!!!!!
2006-11-17 07:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
babe he is putting guilt trip on you, so please dont fall for it men who uses gukt trip to get whta they wnat shoudl have thiers balls chopped off :) seriously though dont worry about it... soudn like a sad man to me
2006-11-17 07:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by James A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a liar. leopards don't change their spots sweetie.
2006-11-17 07:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by shortbus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope you didn't. He's just weird.
2006-11-17 07:20:52 · answer #10 · answered by bgii_2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋