I feel terrible.... do I tell him?

Question

I had a big fight with my fiancee last night. I have never been so mad in my life. We had a fight because he always prefers his mom than me. always her. when he has days off, he likes to spen them at her house. His mom is an illegal alien (undocumented immigrant) and last night I called ICE and reported her because I was sooo mad. I feel bad now, because she will get deported. I didnt give my name nor any personal information. ICE told me that they will go to her house and deport her. Did i do the right thing or did I over react? should I tell my fiancee?

Answer 1

Well maybe you did overrecat but hey the damage is done and there is nothing to be done about it right? I personally wouldnt tell my fiancee... yet... just wait and see what happens because sometiemes when you report someone like that ICE doenst even show up. and if you tell him what you did and ICE never shows up , then you will feel reallly stupid. Just wait and see. Time will tell. Stop feeling so terrible about it.... everyone makes mistakes that we regret... its over now okay? Just relax!
And about him being mommy's boy, well try encouraning him to move to a different town so you wont be so close to your families that way, there wont be as much problems!
GOOD LUCK! and dont worry about it ok hon??!

Answer 2

I think you may have overreacted. I mean, it's not like he's been spending time with another woman...it's his mother, and while I know how difficult it is to, how should I say, "share" your fiancee with anyone else, I think that it shows how strong a bond he has with his mother and you should see that as a rarity. Are you ever included in the time he spends with his mother? Is he an only child...only boy? I think you should tell him that you would like to also spend some time with him AND his mother. As far as reporting her? Although, I know that you feel terrible and the guilt may overcome you, I don't know that it is really the best thing to tell him that you have reported his mother. I know, it's terrible that I am advocating that you lie to your future husband, but that's his mother, I don't think he will take that lightly...I wouldn't. I think you should come clean and accept the consequences of your actions. I don't know how your fiancee will react, but if he loves you and has the capacity to listen and be receptive to your problems than I think that trust can definitely be rebuilt.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Why did you do this --- just because you fiancee is a mamas boy it is not her fault. However, now that the damage is done my response to you is to dump your fiancee I was married to a mamas boy for 9 years thought he would change never did, his mom always came first. Get out of this relationship will you can he will not change and you should not have to play second fiddle to anyone.!!!!!

Answer 4

Yes, you did the right thing. There are too many illegal aliens in our country who shouldn't be here. Everyone who comes here has to do the same thing to be a citizen. Why should she be here and not do the same?!
I wouldn't tell your fiancee. He will get very angry with you. Although, your mother in law is out of the picture. You don't have to worry about her anymore...You are soooo....lucky...lol
Most of us can only dream of that happening......

Answer 5

You did over react. Hate to tell you this, but the damage has been done. Sometimes we have to think things twice before we do something stupid and then regret it. Now, on telling them that you called ICE and that his mom is going to get her, you need to tell them. Im sure that if you don't tell them, it will be in your chest, feeling remorse. I would be mad too, if he would spend more time with her than me. Remember, its his mother. But he also needs to think that he is a grown man, needs to move on with his life and spend more time with you. Just remember, you need to think things twice, before you can committ the biggest mistakes. I wish you the best of luck and I do hope things work out for you.

Answer 6

I can't believe you'd do such a thing to your fiancee's mother. That is just plain horrible. If you're jealous of such a family being so close confront him about it, don't DEPORT her. This is just wrong. VERY wrong. And If you tell your fiancee I don't believe he'll be able to forgive you, because I wouldn't either because he will want to be with her, and that means he will have to leave too. There goes any chances you had with him.

Answer 7

Wow, you're pretty pathetic, if you're going to do that. That is HIS own mother, and has every right to spend as much time as he wants with the woman that gave him life. I'm pretty sure, you'd be pretty pissed if he was to do that to your mother. It was childish and very immature of you to do that. So what you had a fight? That's normal in relationships, you moron. You calling ICE on his mother, was cold and heartless of you, and I hope if he has any family members around your area, I hope they whoop your behind, for being a trifling @$$ hobag. Fighting in relationships, is normal, not unless you want the easy way out. But it looks like you're $hit out of luck. Not only did you take away the woman that gave him life, and spent 9 months in her belly, but you are going to lose the trust and love and HIM for doing this. For being a jealous *****. I don't believe in regrets, but I do believe in karma, and I pray that this comes back to you twice as hard. Ignorant, pathetic woman like you, give the good ones the bad name. Infact, you don't even amount to being called a woman, you're nothing but a little girl crying out for help. You're a sad, and sick individual. And I will laugh the day this comes back to you.

And if you, are a "real" woman, you'd have enough guts to tell him what you did, since you did have enough guts to call ICE, then finish what you started. Only a coward takes the easy way out.

Answer 8

first of all, they can't just deport someone, theyll ask for documentation, and even if she doesn't have it it takes forever to deport someone. and honestly they probably wont even show up, they get calls like that all the time. and as for your fiance, once a mamas boy always a mamas boy, but theres a line that doesnt need to be crossed. you should come first in his life now, not his mother. is he by any chance, indian? and if he doesnt start putting your first, then he never will.

Answer 9

i am a believer that these people that are in our country illegally should be sent back. but not over an argument that you had with your boyfriend. as far as telling him, well??? when you do it will be over so i guess you need to decide. he wont stay with you when he finds out. but you know what he is going to think it is funny how ice came looking for her after you two were fighting.

Answer 10

i do no longer help lieing yet i think of your searching for yet differently out. Im very nosiey too! I caught my boyfriend of two years on the time with quite some bare photograph on his telephone of the comparable women human beings. No ask your self he constantly saved it in his motor vehicle! (be conscious: We had only pass in mutually.) He refused to confess that he became into cheating on me. I broke up with him and a pair days later i won letters from yet another woman asserting that she wish she could make like to him returned, and how she cant wait to ensure the engagement ring he have been given her. Little did she recognize that he replaced his handle and the letters might now no longer pass to his mothers living house. If i did no longer seem at his telephone that day identity nevertheless be living into his lies. Im happy you didnt discover something and want this dosent make you prefer to leaf via his telephone. i might say that its okay to be nosiey dont beat your self up over it. as on your question, i might say that u thought it became into your digital mail and could no longer ensure why you had to alter the password. Its a lame lie yet attempt to return up with something else.