He is leaving in 3 Months, he had an argue this past weekend. I told him how I feel that I love him,he said that he has feelings for me but he is not in love with me. He said that that I love being around you have a good time. But if I decided not to see him then he will look for me and miss me.
2006-11-17 07:17:12 · 14 answers · asked by jennie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've been together for 6 Months now.
2006-11-17 07:20:10 · update #1
the key words in your question are "do I need..." If you "need" to see him, you are attached in an unhealthy way. Healthy relationships are when two independent people choose to become interdependant. Further, if the relationship is not 2-way, you can never make him want you. If you cling to him, he will want to get away. The old saying is, "if you love someone, let him go. If he comes back, it was meant to be." (Or something like that)
2006-11-17 07:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by larry r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. u have no reason to doubt who u are, the way u look or ur qualities. u sound like a genuinly nice guy. however she was in a relationship and it sounds like she has been with this guy for a long time. the problem with that is that she probably has really strong feelings for him and i would even go as far as love. that means that no matter how hard u tried u didn't stand a chance. love is too strong sometimes to break. just because other people dont like her boyfriend doesn't mean that she shouldn't. if u want to be her friend because u hope that something will happen between the two of u then i wouldn't bother. she knows how u feel and i dont think ur going to change her mind. if however u want to just be friends then u need to tell her this. u need to tell her that u understand she has a boyfriend but that the two of u got on too well to end this friendship. i would try moving on from her. learn from ur experience but definitely dont doubt the kind and caring guy u are
2016-05-21 23:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in that situation,and NO you dont have To stay .You are only hurting yourself by staying with him.What he loves is sleeping with you when ever he feel's like it,having someone around when he wants a good Time.In the meanwhile you could find someone that will return the Love.Why wouldnt he look for you ,you are always there and he know's it.He is being selfish and as you said he be leaving in 3 month,Stop wasting youre time and Love on Him.It wont be easy but you can do it.Hang with youre Lady Friends they can help you.Good Luck
2006-11-17 07:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by rhoda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in love and loving someone is two different things and you would need to distinguish the two to make your next move. If you just love him, then you can continue being friends with him, but doing your own thing as we all know he will. But if you are in love with him, then maybe you would want to leave him alone all together; it's not worth the heart ache and pain if you continue to be with him and your love gets deeper and then he leaves, there you are devistated.
2006-11-17 07:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is leaving in three months and he does not love you then why even bother. When he leaves are you two going to try to stay together? Have you talked about that? If he does not plan are trying to stay your boyfriend when he is away then it really is a waist of your time.
2006-11-17 07:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone tells you they are not in love with you and you are saying your in love with them, it won't work. Relationships have to be a two way street. Move on, there is someone out there who will fill that void and be able to be in love with you. People can fall out of love with someone and only have feelings for them. It won't work when this happens. Don't be weak accept it and get out of the relationship.
2006-11-17 07:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by kelsmo1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a friend only no sex or lovey stuff and with other friends around.Then he can be a friend for real or go on with life.He needs to grow up break ups are a part of life everything doesn`t go the way we want it to.He needs to understand that.
2006-11-17 07:22:19 · answer #7 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. If you knows your feelings and he wanted it to last he would have tried to save the relationship. You haven't dated very long, so whether he really likes you or not, saying I love you will just push him away quicker.
Drop him before he hurts you.
2006-11-17 07:29:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't love you, stop wasting your time. Its only been 6 months im sure you will move on
2006-11-17 07:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by samantha w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has no clue what love is and you being around him won't help him figure it out. Don't rationalize things and talk yourself into trying to help him "find his feelings". You deserve someone who knows what he wants and understands love in a mature way.
2006-11-17 07:21:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋