I've met a girl who lives in a different country for about 4 months, and I know what she looks like, we've talked plenty of times, i've seen her through a webcam. I know it sounds crazy but I think I'm in love with this person, and maybe she has feelings for me too.
Now the problem is she has talked about me going to visit her, but I can't afford it, and I tell her everytime.
What should I do about this girl???
It's just that I feel that I'll never meet her in real life and we'll never move on into something.
2006-11-17 07:06:23 · 8 answers · asked by jonsinher 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
save up the money. tell her you are saving up.
this lets her know you are still interested in her and that there is a chance you will see each other
2006-11-17 07:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
k, first of all, be very careful of meeting someone online, let alone in a different country!!!
I'll tell you from an experience from my family.
He met a girl over here that was on a visa, and at end of high school she had to go back to her country.
They stayed in touch and he was madly in love with her, she led him on bigtime. Even her family was encouraging the relationship, and since he couldn't afford to go to her country, they found a "relative" to help him get there, including helping him get a plane ticket without his parent's permission (which was required due to his age). Once there he really felt bad on how poor she had to live etc, and pretty much vowed to marry her. Luckily, this year he has met someone from here, and the other girl is fading fast from his heart.
Don't fall into the trap, they want their daughters to marry americans, where they think is all money.
Stay friends if you'd like, but I am warning you, don't fall for it, and if you really can't afford to go to her country no matter how hard she tries? Wait and see how long she fades away and moves on.
It is hard enough having a long distance relationship with someone you have actually met and spent time with, and even those don't usually work out, so just imagine how much harder and slim the chances of this working either.
You are young, you true love will come, and you will know. It won't matter about money, it'll be more than just curiosity or intrigue.
Don't be in a hurry to live as an adult, you will be an adult for the rest of your life, a young man only for a short time.
2006-11-17 15:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by hisladytish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me. I use to write letters with this guy and we would talk on the phone, and he didnt even live that far from me. Just I guess it wasnt meant to be, we never got to meet or anything even though there was something there. I guess if it's meant to be then you will get that chance to meet, if not then well, at least you had a beautiful experience through it. Till this day I have not met this person and we have talked for almost 7 years, he is married now though. Good luck anyways :p
2006-11-17 15:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by Monica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all the available women in this country, why would you seek out someone in another country especially if you know you could never afford to go visit that person?
2006-11-17 15:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by tkeppers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that is a hard one. If you don't have the potential to ever meet then you need to stop having these feelings. It's not healthy and it will only hurt you in the long run..
2006-11-17 15:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by sweetchesta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can meet someone over the internet who is compatible. I married the one I met. Can she come to you? Is it worth it to borrow the money? Does she just want to get to the states?
2006-11-17 15:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by mikeinsandiego 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that she is too far away for this relationship...sorry this might not work out
2006-11-17 15:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by jdconsultation_101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so ,whats meant to be will be.
2006-11-17 15:11:37 · answer #8 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋