Is it going to make us look proper, or just a kiss-up? Will the other guests be embarassed if they didn't bring one? Could I have flowers delieverd ahead of time instead?
2006-11-17 07:03:27 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You are worrying too much. Take your small gift and have a great time. Enjoy!!!
2006-11-17 07:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by sheeny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flowers before hand or brought with you are appropriate. A hostess gift is also acceptable. By bringing one, you don't look bad. They make themselves look bad. If your husband hears about it later that you were the only couple to bring a gift, just tell him to make a comment like, "I thought everyone knew about a hostess gift!?!" And leave it at that. Good graces are just that---good. You never know what you may call a "kiss-up" may show the boss that you and your husband know how to conduct yourselves with class and etiquette. It's not a kiss-up, it's good manners.
2006-11-17 07:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by whadda-dingo-gal 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think bringing a hostess gift is very proper and would be appreciated by the hostess. If you are concerned that the other guests may not, and you don't want them "whispering in the hallways" about your husband being a "kiss up", then your idea of having the flowers delivered ahead of time is a wonderful idea. The hostess and boss won't think it's "kiss up" but if the other guests come empty-handed, they may. Be safe and have the flowers delivered ahead of time. That way, you win either way.
2006-11-17 07:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you send flowers ahead of time and the others do bring a gift then they will think you didn't bring one. A hostess gift is never out of order. Take what you like and don't worry about the others.
2006-11-18 00:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You bringing a gift won't make your husband's coworkers look bad.
Them showing up at a party without a gift for the hostess is what's making them look bad.
Do what's right, and bring a gift. If your husband's coworkers don't do so, that is a problem for them to worry about, not you.
2006-11-17 07:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to bring a gift? Never mind what the others think. It is the kindness of bringing a gift. Flowers?Hmmm...maybe a nice bottle of wine or gourmet coffee would be nice. Here in Hawaii we bring our best Kona coffee beans/grinds or poke (raw fish). If it's a bbq nite then we bring some meats, oysters, or lobster tails.
2006-11-17 07:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by MissRoyalT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a hostess gift. If your husbands co-workers don't bring one that's there choice. You won't be the one making them look bad, you are just practicing good etiquette.
2006-11-17 23:17:13 · answer #7 · answered by tamara.knsley@sbcglobal.net 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your husband can ask one of his co-workers if people commonly bring gifts, and you can follow that trend, if he's never been thru a holiday season with this company before. If in doubt, I say bring something- flowers a potted plant- I doubt that it will be judged as a suck-up, certainly not if you, as the non co-worker spouse present it.
2006-11-17 08:02:58 · answer #8 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is good manners to bring a small gift to the hostess, and if others don't that's their right. If you really care what the coworkers think then send flowers.
2006-11-17 09:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by Pepper's Mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A gift to the hostess is a very classic and classy move. Nothing to be frowned upon by anyone. It is your way of saying thank you for inviting me into your home and/or putting this all together, nothing more.
2006-11-17 09:21:58 · answer #10 · answered by lunachick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you bring a gift make it simple and don't make a big deal of it - just hand it to the hostess and say "We wanted to tthank you for inviting us" - a very nice gift this time of year is a holiday candle!
2006-11-17 07:14:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋