What would you do if your girl slowly stopped having sex with you?

Question

We've had great sex for 2 years (ie anywhere from 3 times a week to 3 times a day) then a year later, we're doin it only once or twice every 2 weeks? Here's the kicker: I've talked to her about for a WHOLE year, and nothing's changed. What would you do? Would you leave? Stay, grit your teeth, and talk some more? Or would you outsource?

Answer 1

I hate to say it, but she could be getting it elsewhere. This is one of the signs. Do you spend a lot of time apart socially? If so, then this is a sure sign.

I would ask her about the lack of sex. Try to figure it out together. I would also check her phone bill and text messages for any strange number and strange times of the day or night.

Hope this helps and good luck.

Cheers!

Answer 2

1) No matter how much talking you do with her she will not change. In her mind she won you over and even if you left, she could (might) come back on her knees begging you to come back... Probably put out more (for a week maybe a month) but she will not change or compromise for anything long-term.

2) There are no other options but to end the relationship.

3) Hope, pray, meditate, wish and dream that you'll find someone else not like her. The odds are slim, but staying with her gives you zero odds of her changing.

*Something to consider is no woman is worth going through the pains of not getting sex from them. For all the complaining you'll hear from them over a lifetime... Enough said.

Answer 3

Try brushing your teeth or changing deodorant.
Talking to her isn't the answer. Try talking about a committment to each other instead of sex. The old saying is "kissing don't last-cooking do" In other words, there should be more to your relationship than sex. Every couple goes through a period of hot and heavy sex but then that diminishes unless you are investing in the relationship. You don't say what you are doing to encourage her to want you. My guess is you're doing very little other than badgering her to give you what you want.

Answer 4

Its all in what you feel for her. Sex is a major part of a relationship but its not everything. Everyone goes through times where they are less interested.
You might also want to consider that she may be "out sourcing". Sometimes you get tired of the same old thing. You need the challange and excitement. Maybe she found someone that could give her that!

Answer 5

Outsource? That's hilarious.

You are now in the part of the relationship where the "in love" experience has now faded. This is only natural. After that feeling subsides, it's either time to actually work on the relationship, because you don't have sweeping emotions to keep it going, or cut and run (using the language of our idiotic politicians). I'm married, and in retrospect, my advice is to break up with her, find somebody else, and have fun with them until that well runs dry. And then on and on and one. . . unless you want a long term meaningful relationship with children, then you'll just have to resort to sex once every 2 weeks or so.

Answer 6

Talk some more... maybe she's worried the relatioship is based on sex and is testing you. Try and grit your teeth for a few weeks (tough I know) and then just ask her. Let her know that you care about her and you're concerned about the sudden change in the relationship, tell if there's something more that she wants or whatever... maybe next time one of you two is feeling frisky try and make it all about her. Ask her what she wants, where she wants it and how she wants it. Rock her world after a while of no entry and make her remember what amazing chemistry you two have.

Answer 7

She is probably not that turned on anymore for a number of reasons. Step back and analyze the relationship.For starters, it's hard to kiss the lips at night that chew your *** all day. Try really investing in the relationship and being as sexy and desireable as you can be. Make her feel sexy and be sexy as well. Don't be all quick and dirty about it. That is annoying and not a turn-on after you've been together awhile. Set the mood and be sexy as hell. You should know what her turn ons are by now, use them. And brush your teeth and shower before bed and put on some sexy boxers. It's hard to get excited about stank breath, booty and musty balls.

Answer 8

Me and bf have been dating for 7 yrs and we had ALOT of sex the first 2 yrs and then the 3rd yr was good and the 4th yr was good and then the 5th yr was also blah and this year its been great. I think it depends the mood your in and if you partner wants to. We are both 24 young and our hormones are going crazy and we dont have sex like 5 times a week either. We dont live together but we have sex between 2 to 3 times a week. I think sometimes when you are dating someone for a long time you do get a little comfortable when it comes to sex. Sex isnt that important when you have other things to worry about. Talk to her to go running out on her maybe she might have lost interest in sex due to birth control. it happened to me. good luck!

Answer 9

Talk to her about the situation but my answer to your questions is.... Simple...Shes bored with the same old routine, try something new and exciting, take her out some where, so it somewhere like you would never do it, like in the car in a public place or on the beach or in the forest somewhere, its not very romantic, but the thrill of being caught makes it that much more exciting, i've tried all of the above, and i recommend it, as long as she is up for the ride (No pun intended, LOL) Hope everything works out for you!!

~CHEERS!!~

Answer 10

That must mean she is cheating on you for some else because you said y'all have sex every 2 years and 3 times a week well she must be cheating on you because no one will not have stopped having sex i don't do it with my boyfriend because we is waiting intill we get married but i think your girlfriend is cheating on you because it sound like it.