I turned 18 in sept and i havent given much thought as to what my legal right are now that im an adult. my dad still gives me a phone time, a cerfeu, controls who hang out with and for how long, still thinks he can ground me, etc. I dont appreciate all the rules and guidelines that i have to follow when I feel like im mature enough to handle real life issues on my own. I have straight As in school, i faithfully do my chores and keep my room tidy, and ive never been in trouble with the law so i dont see why its a big deal if i dont ask if i can go somewhere. If hed just let me go, id still check in so he wouldnt worry, but this is stupid what hes doing.
let me know what i should do.
thanks.
2006-11-17 07:00:49 · 18 answers · asked by ~Jennifer~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well as long as you live under his roof he can give you rules if you don't like it move out
2006-11-17 07:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live at home that's a tough one. You are an adult by the law's standards and can do whatever you want, but he still has the right to enforce what he perceives to be fair rules under his roof. I am a dad of 2 girls, one 9 and the other 16. Once my 16 year old turns 18 I will let her do pretty much anything as long as I don't think it will harm her, but if she decides to act like an adult in some ways, she must take it all the way. If you are still in High School you may want to think about just dealing with it until you go to college. It sounds like you will have no problem going where you want so you will have all the freedom you can handle. Good luck.
2006-11-17 07:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by Joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would get a job, save up some money and move out. That's the only way you're going to be able to do what you want, when you want. Then you can live by your own rules. Until then, since you are living under your fathers roof, you have to live by his rules because it's his house.
As long as you don't act like you're 13, he won't treat you like you are. Just try to deal with things as any adult would. Be calm and let him know how you feel if something is bothering you. Keep your space clean, pick up after yourself, help out around the house, etc. As long as you're doing that, you should be OK.
I hope this helped. Good luck.
2006-11-17 07:18:19 · answer #3 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
While you are living in his house he has the right to make some rules. Get a job, move out and then it's your call. Until then be glad that you have someone who cares enough to want to keep you safe. However, there may be some flexibility in some of them if you sit down with him like an adult and neogitiate.
2006-11-17 07:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by jazzman6812 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not being able to follow rules is the immature way to live. If you can't follow rules that are made by someone who loves you how will you be able to follow rules that are not? There are rules throughout your life. Some fair and some not fair. If you are 18 and need your dad's help for your housing. food, clothes, utilities etc. you still need his rules. It seems like you are asking for privileges but no responsibility. You will have many years to take care of yourself. Enjoy and appreciate your dad. I wish mine was here to make rules for me. When he died I had never told him that I appreciated him or his love for me. Count your blessings.
2006-11-17 07:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are of legal age to vote and move out of your parents home if you choose... but most parents require adult children to still abide by the rules of the home... when my 20 yo daughter was still living at home and me paying $1000.00'ssss of dollars out for college and other expenses... she wasn't allowed to come and go as she pleased... on school night I wanted her in at a decent hour... to get her rest and study if needed... of course on weekends I was lax... When you are on your own and paying you own bills and inder your own roof... you can do what ever you want... sorry this is how it is in most family... especially when the parents care about there child....
2006-11-17 07:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you are 18 he can not make you live under his roof. So if you dont like his rules then move out.
2006-11-17 07:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be treated like an adult, act like one. Tell your parents you want to talk about how childish they are making you feel, but be prepared, they may lay it out that you have to start taking on some of the responsibilities of adults if you want to act like one.
PArenting is a hard job. cut them some slack! Atleast they care what you do and where you are, some kids never have that.
2006-11-17 07:14:33 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL SO LONG AS YOU ARE UNDER HIS ROOF HE HAS THE RIGHT TO DO ALL OF THAT. YOU ARE 18 NOW SO IF YOU WANT TO CONTROL HOW LONG YOU STAY ON THE PHONE OR WHO YOU CAN HANG OUT WITH THEN YOU NEED TO GET A JOB AN MOVE OUT.
2006-11-17 07:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by becca_2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to HIM about your feelings !!
If you live under his roof then you should respect the fact that you live FOR FREE.... If you pay him rent then you have the right to lay down some rules of your own as a tenant.
Simple simple!!
2006-11-17 08:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since your 18 you can move out and you would not have to worry about him. Get a job and a decent sized apartment
2006-11-17 07:03:48 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋