My b/f and I have been together 6 months, I have 2 daughters from a previous relationship and am busy most the time...same with him he goes to school and works obsessivly.
The other night he asked me questions about what would I say if he asked to live with me, would it bother me because the place was so tiny and he would pay. I evaded answering fully then he told me he was just wondering what I would answer.
Later he asked me about apartments for rent near me and I said oh you would have to deal with children then and he bluntly said "well i wont be living with you"
Very confused on what he meant with the whole convo and what he was getting at?
2006-11-17 06:59:05 · 11 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I will translate guy for you....I want to move in with you but do not want to be rejected by you....
He may not mind the kids...If I were you I would never ever let him move in...You are making a good stand. Keep it up.
2006-11-17 07:03:00 · answer #1 · answered by Today is the Day 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You'll never know what he meant if you don't ask him. Go ahead and get it out in the open. If you're not comfy with him being there then tell your not ready for that at the moment. If you do want him around then get a bigger apartment and offer to pay the utilities and let him pay the rent. Make sure hes good with the kids first, when he is around.
2006-11-17 15:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by My two cents 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he was put off by the fact that you evaded his earlier attempts at suggesting the two of you live together. Could this be why he said "well I won't be living with you." ?
Ask yourself if you want him living with you...if not, leave it be. If, however, you do want to live with him then you need to talk to him about it and let him know that you are open to the idea.
2006-11-17 15:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by ezza 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, DON'T MOVE IN WITH THIS GUY! Second, it sounds like he needs a place to stay and was setting you up to take him in in case he couldn't find a better situation. But you have children and you can lose custody of your children for living with a guy you are not married to. Not to mention it is unfair to your children to expose them to living with someone who doesn't take their Mom seriously en ought to marry her. I'm sure you know of a lot of Moms who live with their boyfriends, but if you don't believe me about the losing custody thing just ask a judge. You deserve a love life sweetie, but you have to grow up and put your children before yourself!
2006-11-17 15:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you evaded his question, he took it as a "NO"... That's why he gave you the blunt response... If you don't want to live with him, then it doesn't really matter... If you do want to live with him, why didn't you say so??? If you weren't sure when he asked about it, why didn't you just say that you needed time to think about it... You need to have a discussion with your man to clarify a few things...
2006-11-17 15:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by HONORARIUS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he is trying to say is that he don't want to take care of other peoples kids or he don't want some kids or something like that.Just wait or find you a man that will accept you for who you are and will help you with your kids.
BABY GURL
2006-11-17 15:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have gotten upset when you didn't respond to his question to begin with. He may have said that as being sarcastic. Maybe you need to talk to him seriously about it.
2006-11-17 15:02:59 · answer #7 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a boyfriend that plans on being a father to your girls and not just a boyfriend to you.
2006-11-17 15:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by Captianpr 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was upset that you don't want him to move in. Too bad! It's your life and your family so you have to watch out for them first.
2006-11-17 15:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you need to stop acting all scared and hit him up asked him what he meant and maybe ya can get out of this predictiment
2006-11-17 15:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by chuck_princess101 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋