Yesterday I was wondering if I should tell my lover's husband about our affair, in the hopes she would fall into my arms. I am taking the good advice of some of you and my close friends and am going to end our relationship. She was cheating on her husband with me and she has gotten drunk and made out with numerous friends of mine. She even wanted to have a threesome with one of my good buddies. Before she suggested it she had been making out with him in the kitchen. So, in order to keep her from hurting me more, I am going to tell her if I hear about or see her fooling around with anyone I know, that I will tell her husband about everything. I feel like this is my right, seeing as she misled about the status of her marriage, the fact that she disrespected me and my friendships, and because I loved her and it tears me apart to think about her banging my friends. Thoughts?
2006-11-17 06:50:28 · 8 answers · asked by Shawn The Bartender 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like you got it all figured out.... do just what you said above and dont chicken out...its for the best .... then go find someone that will love and respect you...good luck
2006-11-17 06:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here are my thoughts:
You are in love with a person who cannot appreciate your love. I am sorry this happens to you. Only you alone can get yourself out of this situation.
I know you see whats going on here but I also know that it is hard to face the truth. You really love someone who is not exclusively yours and I wonder how you bear that facts all this time.
The facts that she wants to have threesome with your friends and making out with someone else even when you are there, imagine what happen when you are not around here.
Think about it! If she really loves you, will she do that? If she loves her husband will she cheat on him? I mean whats to guarantee that she won't cheat on you.
I'm sorry but you are in love with someone who causing you a lot of pain. Life is too short to be lived like that. You should take care of yourself. Take this as a lesson, as an experience, and take your heart away from her. Trust me, if you let this go, you will find someone that will be exclusively yours.
There is a saying goes: You are going to regret more the things you didn't do than the things you did do.
Love will be yours exclusively, time will guarantee that. But first, you must let this one go.
2006-11-17 15:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by camellia_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry your only right is to be upset with her. It was so wrong of her to lead you on but you kept seeing her after you found out. You set yourself up for what ever you got after that. If she’s the type of person to cheat on her husband why would you think you wouldn’t be next. You need to leave this woman alone before you get into a really big mess when she turns this thing around and her husband is coming after you.
I hope you do the right thing- Good Luck
2006-11-17 15:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by anya_8884 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think that you are doing the right thing!! yes leave her along because she is only going to hurt you more. And she is still married and there is no telling if her husband is a good man to her she just wants her cake and eat it to. and you shouldnt have to go through that. You deserve someone better. And for her to make out with your friends and things like that she is making her slef look like a slut if you ask me. But you do what you feel is best that is going to hel you get out of all of this. Stay strong
2006-11-17 14:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by Kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cheats on her husband, and it surprises you that she cheats on you???
You enable her infidelity to her husband. I don't think you have any high ground to stand on here.
Either accept her behavior or leave. Anything else is pure spite.
2006-11-17 14:55:04 · answer #5 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me see if i understand this: you're upset because the person you're cheating with is being or wants to be promiscuous with other people? this is truly an absurd complaint. i would get rid of her immediately, but, as your question is written, i am finding it nearly impossible to feel any sympathy for you.
2006-11-17 14:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by SimAlex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are stooping to her level by doing that. You should just end it and move on. It will all surface itself on its own and she will get what she deserves in the end. You just need to walk away. Good Luck.
2006-11-17 14:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by Lt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would u give them a boot? do they really like shoes or something???
2006-11-17 14:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋