What kind of danger is my friend putting himself in?

Question

I have a friend who is 48, is a diabetic, smokes about a pack of cigerettes every 2 days, has been addicted to crystal meth for the past 20 or so years, and also has high blood pressure. He knows all of these medical problems need attention, but continues to use meth and smoke cigarettes and eat unhealthy.. what can I do as a friend, and what kind of danger is he in?

Answer 1

all you can do is tell him that you dont want to lose some1 important to you over stupid shi* like meth. maybe try an intervention to help him realize this and if he blows up and thiks your being ridiculious then you need to tell him that you have more important things going on in your life and not to mention your own life to take care of and not his! and ask him "if iwas in your situation what would u do for me if you knew i would ie very young?" dont yell or overreact just tell him that your dissappointed in him like your parents would to you and in my eyes my parents or some1 i loved being dissappointed in me hurt worse than yelling or spanking. i hope you can help him.

Answer 2

My brother had diebetes and ate what he wanted and smoked heavy. His wait was fine. He was an older brother and told me to mind my own business. I wasn't too assertive. He lost a leg than laid back and had everybody waiting on him. He signed himself in and out of nursing homes. He died from Bronchitis in '94 three months shy of his 61st birthday. He was much older than me. I still feel bad but the system said he was competent of making his own decisions. I new better. He took two much insulin one time, went into a coma, brain damage. He was never allowed to take insulin by himself after that yet the system says he was free
to make his own decisions. I think about that when I sometimes beat up on myself which is not too often now. Not that I care less. I'm just trying to say we are powerless over people and their choices. I was next of kin. As a friend you don't even have that leverage. You can relate my experience but most times they feel it will never happen to them.
Another diebetic with both legs off held the bottle up and said this is all I want for Christmas. He wasn't with us the next Christmas. All you can do is suggest and be there for them. All the best.

Answer 3

He is really going to regret what he's doing once his body starts breaking down. Smoking is horrible for diabetics, who can have problems with circulation in their legs and feet. Smoking will make matters even worse. If he eats a high fat diet he risks stroke, among other things. And we won't even go into the drugs and their effects!!! I feel really sorry for him. He is suffering.

Answer 4

He is in intense danger as you already know. All you can do is be supportive but advise of the changes that he needs to make. In your own mind you must become aware that he may not want to or have the will to change and his time may be limited. Protect yourself and do not go down with him. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Your friend has to want to change for himself, not for you.
#1- he needs a good detox center.
Then he can work on the other things. He can't accomplish the rest unless he is clean.

Some people don't want to take care of themselves. All we can do is be there to listen and provide a shoulder to cry on.
Good luck

Answer 6

He's in very high risk of having a cardiovascular event (heart attack)... he needs a good friend like you, good advice, patience but also he needs to realize his problem is serious and he needs to detox.

Answer 7

my fiance says just kill him now to end his suffering'

i say that it is his decision, show him what will and is happoning to him. after this you should cut your ties ith him to clean your hands of his stuipdity

dumb are stupid

Answer 8

Maybe he wants to live well and die young, if he doesn't want to change, you can't do it for him.