Im going out tomorrow on a date with a girl that i adore!We are going through a serious and real relationship and I dont wana ruin anything tomorrow.She is the type that goes out with men for the sake of mature realtionships and not only sexual satisfaction.I havent talked with her abt sex but i really do not know whether i should french kiss her tomorrow or just back off a lil bit until we get to know each other more.She has explained to me that she wants to have tomorow a mature chat along with a nice dinner but the kissing part is still kinda vague and i dont wana push her away.So should I go for it tomorrow or just back off(I sometimes end up in bed due to a simple kiss and i dunno what to do )
2006-11-17 06:36:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seeing that she is the type that is looking for a mature relationship or for a man to spend her life with and not a sexual relationship, i would tell you to not french kiss her tonight, but hold off until you get to know her, if she wants a kiss on the lips she'll lean into it, but if she doesn't don't fret and just give her a peck on the cheek or a hug or something small like that, keep it slow until you know how far you both are willing to go in the relationship. if you move too fast you will push her away and she'll never get the chance to see you for who you really are, all she'll see is the person that wants her for sex, and that's not what you want i assume right? Plus if you have a tendency to end up in bed with her if you kiss her, then yes, things will escalate and you will probably lose her, deep it slow and let her know you are willing to hold off on things until she's ready, she'll respect you more and will feel more comfortable around you...so take it slow
2006-11-17 06:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would go in for the kiss and if she tries to make the kiss into a French Kiss. During the kiss just tell her that this can go as far and as fast as she wants it to. Let it be up to her. And if you still don't feel this is the way you want to go with this then just tell her that you would really like to kiss her. She will more than likely think that its sweet and go along with it. Talk to her about what you are feeling. I know that most guys don't like to do that but it could help with your not knowing what to do.
2006-11-17 14:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go for a simple kiss, don't jam ur tongue down her throat on the first date, especially if she made it obvious that she isn't into relationships only for sexual satisfaction. Wait a little while till u start frenching her.
2006-11-17 14:40:00 · answer #3 · answered by kms010494 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont french kiss!! If you do, she's gonna think all you are interested is sex coz thats what french kiss is all about and it does'nt look mature. Instead, u should give her an ordinary one coz it look very more mature. You dont show girls alwys what you want leave them to figure it out , coz it makes you so unique and gals like guys who are unique.
2006-11-17 14:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by fine boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I felt like you, I'd call her right now and cancel the date. You'll be better off in the long run. Reason being, you're wrapped up on her physically, no matter if you tell yoursle fyour not. If you weren't you wouldn't have this question in your mind.
Drop her, focus on bettering yourself and revisit her down the road when you've matured. Chances are, few years from now your tastes will have changed and she won't be attractive.
2006-11-17 14:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by ark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push the kissing issue. If you adore her that much, it shouldn't matter if you get a kiss or more tomorrow.
Just wait a while. Stimulate her mentally and maybe she'll do the kissing!
2006-11-17 14:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by tiger_lilly33186 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hold out on the kissing part until the next date unless she starts getting really close to your face like she wants to kiss you!
2006-11-17 14:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lori J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should go for it. since you say that you and your grirlfrien are going through a serious and real relationship. i think that you know enough and go for it my friend. im only 15 years old i my boyfriend already french kiss me. so go for it and then mail me what happen
2006-11-17 14:45:09 · answer #8 · answered by abigail your helper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go ahead and do it becuz even if she don't act like she want anything sexual she really do.
2006-11-17 14:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by shay16lips 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋