My bf has a job and now I'm getting a job. I'm only asking for 20 hrs and for his job, it's more of whenever they need him. This week he worked from Tues. to Fri 3-9. This is a good week. So, what we are afraid of is the fact that we're never going to see each other. I mean with both of us having school in the morning then going to work at night, i just don't know how we are going to manage. i don't want the job but my parents are forcing me to get a job. But what hurts the most is that he's going to get tired of not seeing me and leave. And i love him so much. i have never felt this way for someone before. i can't even go one day with out seeing him but i know that eventaully everything will be alright. What i really want to do is save up for me and him to get an apartment but that's going to take a while and also i got school to pay for. i don't know. I'm just afraid that i'm going to lose the only person i ever loved. Does anyone who's been this have any advice?
2006-11-17 06:27:04 · 5 answers · asked by ronnie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nikki,
I don't want to come across to you in a harsh way, please don't take it that way. First let me tell you I understand what you are saying. Why? Because I have been there...many years ago.
1.My first advice is, try not to fight the situation so much. Go with the flow.
2. I know spending time with each other is important and you are afraid if there is time lost, then he will want to move on.
If he feels for you, the way you feel for him, the time that you two can spend together will be more valuable. Be careful not to strangle the person you love, you can push them away like that.
3. Think of the long term goals, work hard and work toward an apartment.
4. You will drive yourself crazy with thoughts of losing him...DON'T. Relax and take it day by day. Sure there will be concerns you may have along the way. The important thing to do is to communicate your concerns with your boyfriend so that it may be resolved.
Best wishes to you
2006-11-17 06:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by samantha H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand where you are comming from. Me and my boyfriend are both in college and both work full time. We do have days where we don't see eachother but the days that we do spend a lot of time together are that much better. Unless you live together most couples dont see eachother 24/7. Its a part of life. If you do have a good relationship and he is any kind of man then it won't be that big of a problem.
2006-11-17 14:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by bree_1384 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love each other, then you will find ways for you to meet with your busy schedule. And with the advances in communication, you two can always communicate through phone, email or even leaving voice messages in each other's phone. It will be tough but if you two are in this together, you will overcome the circumstances and have a good relationship.
2006-11-17 14:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't love if it's based on fear and insecurity and neediness and pain. Life happens, and you deal with it. Don't worry, just live.
2006-11-17 14:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dump the boy your job is more inportant.
2006-11-17 14:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by mycatzozo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋