I've been seeing a girl for the past few months and we gotten to the point where we cuddle when we're together, hold hands when we go out, and make out, but she doesn't want to rush into a relationship at this time. She is pessimistic about what is going to happen if we were to be 'officially' together, like her being hurt. She feels this way because of a really bad experience with her ex-boyfriend. We are very compatible, could talk about anything, and also love to spend time together. She also told me she will be committed to me, as in only seeing me and not seeing other guys. I want to make this relationship official but she is hesitant. What should I do? Any comments?
2006-11-17 06:24:46 · 20 answers · asked by LostInTheFog 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like an official relationship to me already, maybe she just doesn't want "the label" don't rush it, just be patient and enjoy what you guys have now, if you rush it, it will seem like all u care about is having a trophy girlfriend or something, just enjoy what you hve already and the rest will come naturally
2006-11-17 06:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by Kollege Gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what you told me it looks like she likes you. If you are thinking, that having sex starts a relationship that is a wrong way to look at what a real relationship is. If she is not ready to have sex with you because of what the ex boyfriend made her feel after the broke up just be supportive and go at her pace. Sure it might suck that you are not able to show your affection in a session of sex but if you truly love her in return you should go at her pace. She will see that you love her back and is willing to continue with you and then later she will go to that step with you. Think of the show That 70's show where Eric and Donna been together for a long time but were not ready to have sex together until a very long time.
Again, from what it looks like she really likes you too, but right now she is not ready to have sex with you right now because she wants to know for sure that there is true love between you and her at this time so that her heart will not be broken again. To her, sex offers deep emotions feelings for each other and offers total commitment to each other.
2006-11-17 06:40:18 · answer #2 · answered by Wheaties 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to her about the way you feel? Don't rush her but make sure that she intends on getting in a relationship with you bc I was dating some guy for about a year and he was the same way and every time I would ask how come we weren't together he would come up with some crappy excuse and had the nerve to tell me that he loved me but he didn't want to make it official...I didn't get that mess. But just make sure that her intentions are good.
2006-11-17 06:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by beauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, if she's only seeing you, y'all are IN a relationship... if you are kewl with her taking time before wanting to have sex or verbally declare you as her boyfriend, then hang in there and ride it out a while longer...
She really needs to work on her mistrust though, and not punish you (or others) for the hurt she felt over someone else's actions...it's not fair to treat others with suspicion because of another's actions...
It's up to you...hang in there if you like her enough...or go your own way and tell her when she's ready for a serious relationship, to contact you....and if you are still available, you'll consider it at that time...
2006-11-17 06:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's pretty official already. That aside, if she doesn't want to be "official" then give her time. As long as you are happy with you relationship, that will come in due time. Don't push too much because (it sounds like you are happy with her) you wouldn't want to push her away. Be patient and make sure she knows that you like to be with her. She'll come around sooner or later. Good luck.
2006-11-17 06:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by LaLaLaBamba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is great you are open to this. Because you guys have talked so much about liking each other, I say this is going to make a heck of a relationship man. Just keep at it with her and get closer.
2016-03-28 23:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at first you need to give her few time.And make her to forget past and continue a very nice relationship with you. And you need to support her about everything. If you Really Love her You must respect her feeling! BEST OF LUCK.
2006-11-17 06:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Rohan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to be with this girl, give her the time she needs. If she is still carrying emotional baggage from previous relationships, she needs time to heal. Just hang in there and be patient. She will love you for it.
2006-11-17 06:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by justcurious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just give her time to relax. Enjoy the time that you have with her and make each moment special. She will eventually see that you truly care about her and things will change. Don't pressure her, that will push her farther away. Good Luck!
2006-11-17 06:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by Lt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stick with her. show her that you are serious. Your giving her time to work stuff out in her own life will make her like you even more eventually. I know it sucks to wait, but it will be worth it in the end.
2006-11-17 06:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋