My mother is a different kind of person. She is in a relationship with a woman,and I love her partner to death, its been 9years. But sometimes I don't like having my friends over,and I don't want o tell my mom. What should I do???
2006-11-17 06:04:52 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why? Are you embarrassed by your mom? And if so, why?
What is wrong with her being a lesbian? Let her have her life and you have yours. There is no reason for you not to bring your friends over. There is also no reason for you to be embarrassed by your mom.
If someone that you bring over judges you or your mom, then they are not a real friend.
Take care,
Troy
2006-11-17 06:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you ? I think your friends already know about your Mom. Choose your friends because some people can be tactless and might hurt your feelings by making side remarks about your mother. Even jokingly it may hurt. And they are not your real friends If you love your Mom and accept her relationship don't worry about what other people say. It is just not a normal relationship and some people do not accept it. And I think your friends like you foe what you are and nothing else.
2006-11-17 06:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. Have more respect for your mother than that. While I can see this being a hard situation for you because your Mom is not like the majority, would you really want her to change for you? This is really a true test of your friendships. A real, strong and good friend will always support you no matter what and won't judge you because of your mother's sexual preference. I hope you don't live less because you are ashamed. Embrace this difference and love your Mother just for being who she is.
2006-11-17 06:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not see that there is anything you really can do, your mother is gay, and that is probably not going to change. I can understand why you would not want to have friends over, some young people and even adults can be very mean and judgmental. I don't have anything to offer as advice. Sorry, I guess you really should discuss this with your mom, she is the best one to speak to about this, maybe she can give you some advice on how to deal with this situation. Good luck and God bless*******************
2006-11-17 06:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to your mom about it and let her know exactly how you are feeling. she's your mother and she can help talk you through about why you feel the way you do.
if you don't want to have your friends over because you are worried about what they will think, then maybe you need to look over that friendship. a true friend won't care about your mom and her partner. just tell them ahead of time to make sure that they won't be uncomfortable with the situation and then go from there. best of luck with everything!
2006-11-17 06:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sam B. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it and be proud of your mother and her partner. anyone who has objections to this loving family and loving relationship is going to be a problem for you anyway. While there are still problems with this kind of bigotry out in society, your true friends won't bring that in with them.
2006-11-17 06:10:36 · answer #6 · answered by jryanwinterhaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should talk to your mom. She will understand how you are feeling. Being gay, she has had to deal with prejudice and judgement for a long time. She may be able to give you some really good advice on how to deal with it.
It won't be an easy conversation I'm sure, but your mom loves you. Give her a chance to help you. Good luck
2006-11-17 06:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, she is not all that different. It's a pretty normal thing, the only thing that is different is that she has a great realtionship and you love your step/mom or whatever it is you refer to her as!!!!!!
Have your friends over, they probably are sick of listening to their parents argue and would welcome the peace of a loving couple in a happy home!!!!!
Share your feelings with your mom, it's okkay, she won't be mad at you, I am sure she loves you a great deal and will be open to you to talk it all through, be honest, it's okay....good luck.
2006-11-17 06:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to not want to have to explain things to people, even if you aren't embarrassed about something. Maybe you should just wait until you know people a little better before you invite them over- so you'll feel more comfortable with them, and not feel funny about any questions or comments they may have.
2006-11-17 06:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your mom about this and see if both of you can come to an agreement. When you let her know she might be hurt but should understand your feelings 1st. You will fins a away to get around this.
2006-11-17 07:28:54 · answer #10 · answered by justmmez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋