that you KNEW NOTHING ABOUT>>>>you thought he was a good guy...ANYWAY, MONTHS LATER, HE SAYS WHILE HE WAS DRINKING....something a long the lines of he had been in prison for blah, blah, blah....he was clean cut, cute and had a great personality...HIS FRIENDS WOULD NEVER MENTION THAT TO YOU EVEN IF YOU WERE TO ASK....THEY would be forced to lie for him to not screw up the relationship...why do you think she did that??? later when i called her and said..."i did not know that he had been in trouble with the law!!!" she said basically..."we wanted him to meet a nice girl and we thought of you...we thought with a nice girl he would change...Plus how did you find out about it??? i said HE TOLD ME..."...nOW HOW DO I GET RID OF HIM????NOW I AM SUSPICIOUS...AND realize their friends will never tell and just let it go at that...Now i do not know how many times this guy had done this thing that deserved prison time, but i don;t care...i feel soo stupid...Now i can see why people accidently ..
2006-11-17 05:58:59 · 5 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You cannot change the spots on an animal.....get out of the relationship that started out deceitfully!!!
2006-11-17 06:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by Sammyleggs222 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sometimes, what had happened in the past, is just that. We've ALL done things in our past that we weren't proud of. If he's a nice guy now, and have changed his ways, then give him a chance. Maybe he's learned a valuable lesson, and has changed. Don't judge, accept him for who he is. If and when, that trust is broken, then you'll have something to worry about. As far as the friends are concerned, it isnt their place or right to tell you about his past, it was his responsibility. He's a nice guy now and you like him? Then go with it!
2006-11-17 14:08:42 · answer #2 · answered by Cyndi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be harsh, but I think you are extremely judgmental for wanting to dump a guy you are getting along so well with because he has something sort of shameful in his past. Do you know how many nice people in the world go to prison each year for things they did only once, or things they did to get money to feed their families? Don't lump him in with the actual dangerous criminals just because he may have done some time. What if you had something in your past that you were ashamed of, and someone dumped you when you opened up to him about it? So everybody has to be absolutely perfect for you to give them a chance? I bet whatever he did was something like drug dealing or something, and if you can't forgive him for a past deviation that resulted in jail time, you're probably not the best girlfriend for him anyway. Your friends vouched for this guy's character and were able to see past his past misdeeds to see that he was a very nice, decent guy who just ended up on a bad road for a while. Why can't you be a little bit more like your friends? Do you honeslty think they'd set you up with someone dangerous? Of course not! If there's one thing I can't stand, it's judgmental people who instantly write nice, good people off just for something in their past. Just break up with him and let him find an actual nice person instead of a fake nice person like yourself.
2006-11-17 14:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends what he do
maybe keep him
give a shot
he was honest with u
2006-11-17 14:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by davey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd question how good a friend would do that
2006-11-17 14:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by kim r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋