Me and my ex had been going out for 5 months and we got a baby on the way. I have tried being her friend but all she wants to do is plainly ignore me. She puts the blame of us breaking up on me. "You did this and you did that." What should I do? Remain her friend and let her do this or drop her completely and just deal with the baby part? I want the baby in my life but its getting to the point were i dont want anything to do with her,
What should I do?
2006-11-17 05:48:20 · 14 answers · asked by The Mole 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have a serious talk with her regarding the baby, and try to come to some agreement with regards to the child's future. Please try to remember that even thought the two of you may not stay in love, you will be parents forever!
2006-11-17 05:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by prairiegurrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I commend you for wanting to be your babies life, because that's the most important thing right now. Have you heard the expression "it takes two to tango" well it's probably not all your fault. I would sit her down and calmly talk to her about how you feel. Don't say the same thing she says by using the word "YOU"
because it will seem like you are attacking her and she will be on the defense. Just start the conversation by using the word "WE" or US. That way you are including yourself also. But anyway tell her that you don't want your baby growing up in this kind of environment where you two fight all the time. Tell her what's done is done and their's nothing you can do about it. You are focused on raising your baby so whatever she has against you at this time needs to be put on the back burner. If you approach her this way she will have to respect it. I hope that helped.
2006-11-17 05:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard ecspecially with a baby on the way. She is going to be very hormonal right now with the pregnancy, but maybe she feels if she shuts you out that she wont have to deal with the pain or hurt from not being together. You guys should fix everything sit down and talk a baby does need both parents in its life. if she doesn't agree to any of this then deal with just the baby and being able to take care of it and stop friendship with her dont fight or anything like that only talk if you need to
2006-11-17 05:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by crrousey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK GROW UP. THAT baby needs parents that think of her. 4 THAT babys sake get along. YOU dont half to be romantic either just communicate. AN try not to argue. IF THAT dont work talk through ATTORNEYS. BUT that will get costly and so is the court room.
2006-11-17 05:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would keep trying to be her friend atleast fo the babys sake.Its hard to parent a child if both parents hate each other. Eventually she might get that through her head, it kind of comes with the hormone thing. Good luck!
2006-11-17 05:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by crystalizeu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of insurance companies will not recognize same sex "partnerships". It may also take time for her "ex" to establish some insurance of his own. Are you the reason for the divorce? Maybe you should find a job benefit and be a little more independent. I am thinking your partner made a mistake in her choice of partners.
2016-05-21 23:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You decided to put this woman in your life forever by getting her pregnant, now you must deal with her for the next 18 years. Get used to it.
2006-11-17 05:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to her. She has things to say that you haven't heard or she wouldn't still be saying them. Try harder to understand what's going on with her. Pregnant women have a lot of hormones affecting them. I feel sorry for your innocent little baby.
2006-11-17 05:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by RockwallCat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee who knew having sex would lead to babies? It's your responsibility to take care of her AND your baby. But if she insists on treating you like crap, just be there for your baby and do everything you can to support your child.
2006-11-17 05:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by Beebee07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for now i think you chould just deal with her.
once that baby comes...your relationship will change and u guys will have to/ want to get it all straight for the baby.
u dont have to be with her....but be civil for the babies sake...when it comes along.
2006-11-17 05:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋