What should i do to guard my heart so i won't be "fall in love" with him? I do not want to have an unequal spiritually partner, though i have to admit he is a very nice, caring, gentle and patient man. The truth is, i can even see his character is better than some christian men who somehow "declare" their faith by saying but not in action. Pls give me wise advice to guard my heart. No rude and un-useful comments pls, i need advice over here. Thanks.
2006-11-17 05:48:06 · 11 answers · asked by questioning 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I know many women who've fallen into that trap - including myself. If you are born again, you have a holy spirit; your spirit is holy. If that man is not born again, he does not have a holy spirit. This is why the Bible says that light has no fellowship with darkness.
A woman who believes in Christ can have an unfavorable affect on a nice man who is not born again and inspire meanness that perhaps even he didn't know existed. Why? Because those who are born again are children of light (Ephesians 5:8 and 1 Thessalonians 5:5), and those who are not born again are darkness (Ephesians 5:8, 1 Peter 2:9, & 2 Corinthians 6:14). So what ends up happening is a person walks along life's way in darkness not even aware that they are in darkness and in walks a person into their life who is light in the Lord. If the 2 try and mingle as men and women mingle in marriage, then they have become one. And if the person was happy in their darkness not wanting to change then with a believing person they are continually confronted by this light blaring into their spiritual eyes, and it is irritating, and major conflict is inevitable.
If you are weak and feeling drawn to this person, then the only thing for you to do if you sincerely want to avoid a life like this is cry out to God day and night until you are delivered from the temptation. It wouldn't be called temptation if it wasn't so compelling and if the emotions being evoked didn't bring such a high. When a person allows themselves to be carried away by a high like that, a crash is inevitable. And hopefully you'll just take someone's word for it who's been there rather than go down that road yourself. It takes a long time for a heart that's been busted into a gazillion pieces to be put back together, and it basically puts the plans and purposes of God for one's life on hold.
I can tell you all day and all night long that it's not worth it. It's for you to heed wisdom's cry:
Proverbs 9
Wisdom has built her house, she has hewn out her seven pillars:
She has killed her beasts; she has mingled her wine; she has also furnished her table.
She has sent forth her maidens; she cries upon the highest places of the city,
"Whoso is simple, let him turn in here;" as for him who wants understanding she says to him,
"Come, eat of my bread, and drink of the wine which I have mingled.
Forsake the foolish and live, and go in the way of understanding.
He who reproves a scorner gets to himself shame, and he who rebukes a wicked man gets himself a blot.
Reprove not a scorner lest he hate you: rebuke a wise man, and he will love you.
Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be yet wiser; teach a just man, and he will increase in learning.
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.
For by me your days shall be multiplied, and the years of your life shall be increased."
If you be wise, you shall be wise for yourself: but if you scorn, you alone shalt bear it.
A foolish woman is clamorous; she is simple and knows nothing.
For she sits at the door of her house on a seat in the high places of the city,
To call passengers who go right on their ways:
"Whoever is simple, let him turn in here," and as for him who wants understanding, she says to him,
"Stolen waters are sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant."
But he knows not that the dead are there and that her guests are in the depths of hell.
2006-11-17 06:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by Carol L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By "colleague" do you mean a work colleague? Because if we're talking about someone you met at the workplace, forget it, period. Don't even get into the whole "he's not Christian" question. Dating people you work with is BAD. I know. I've tried it. It could work out, of course, but then if it doesn't you'll have to see him every day and won't really have any way to heal in private. Think about it.
2006-11-17 05:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why guard yourself and prevent yourself from falling in love with this man, if you feel he is nice, caring and gentle and patient?? If his character is better than those that CLAIM to belong to your faith, then why hold his beleifs against him?
this is the biggest problem with religion - it makes you feel somehow superior to this man just because he doesnt beleive as you do. Is that fair? Is it fair that you beleive he is beneath you spiritually just because he doesnt beleive in your God??
You should date this man based upon his qualities, not based upon his opinions. Look - he is willing to be involved with you - despite the fact that your views are not the same. Why not afford him the same respect?
Hope that helps.
2006-11-17 05:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is a non-christian and your a christian you are very correct in that you are unequal in your spirituality. He is way above you.
Try logic and reason, it's uses go far beyond seeing through the sham of religion.
2006-11-17 05:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by sprcpt 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are their cases once you get extra inquisitive approximately what Christians are stimulated via? HECK NO - I grew up in that faith and that i actually do no longer could renowned from now on. additionally, are you able to admit that there are some Christians who particularly attempt to be like Christ? consistent with threat, yet there are priceless few of them. you notice christians who particularly attempt and stay like christ do no longer convey interest to themselves. Christians who convey interest to themselves are in simple terms like the pharisees who made specific that everybody observed them putting their donations in the field (paraphrasing something jesus reported in the NT). One significant occasion is Benny Hinn.
2016-10-22 06:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by titman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I propose that there is no reason why you shouldn't love a good person. Are you saying you have to have a Christian husband, even if they are a jerk?
What would Jesus do? He would follow his heart.
2006-11-17 05:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go for the heart instead of the religion. It's his heart and yours count. Good Luck.
2006-11-17 05:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by Bright 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Religion should hold NO bearing on your love
2006-11-17 05:49:55 · answer #8 · answered by Sean 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How one is treated is far more significant then the doctrines one expounds.
2006-11-17 05:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by The Chaos Within 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you let your religion stop you from happiness...
2006-11-17 05:51:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋