Now, I am a very sexual person and lately my boyfriend has not wanted to have sex at all. So last night I told him if I don't get it then I'll buy a toy. and he got upset saying that I was being vendictive and couldn't believe that I would say something like that to hurt him. *sigh* I can understand it's partily because we recently just moved in with his parents for the next six months to save money.But it's a big house and we have our own room away from his parents (downstairs) and he doesn't even try when nobody's home!! I'm I so wrong in saying that?
2006-11-17 05:42:56 · 23 answers · asked by Curiosity98 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all i can say is my middle name is toy
2006-11-17 05:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't know what to say really!! well it would have been good if you only shared your thoughts with him and discussed the issue without mentioning the "toy " thing !! i understand that you have certain needs but the idea of replacing him with a toy to satisfy yourself isn't that nice .. is it ? imagine if you were going through a tough time for some reason and he were like well i don't care for ya if you don't do that for me am gonna go get it anyway !!! all what am saying here is that It suppose to be much more than only the sex that you can use a toy instead of it ! it should be about sharing your life with that person .. feeling his pain .. being involved in the good and the bad .. it suppose to be about love .. isn't it :)
2006-11-17 05:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by need to know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you living with a boyfriend when you have such unresolved issues? Do you plan to marry this person knowing he may not have a compatible sexual drive with yours?
Make the toys a team effort. Go buy them together, look at other stuff, maybe get some movies, etc...and see if that helps. He won't find it vindictive if he's invited to play!
2006-11-17 05:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you fusteration completely, but maybe he just feels uncomfortable about it being in his parents house and everything. Seeing it is their house maybe he thinks they will just walk in, the plastic toy though i don't feel he should be upset with that cause its not like you told him you were gonna go get it else where
2006-11-17 05:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by crrousey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is just gettin the feeling that all dat matter sis sex n ur relationship yeah what u said was kinda wrong to say but im sure he will be okay u two just both need to tkae a break off frum ****** for awile its not healthy...and he coiuld be worried about people just walkin n on u two ya know.
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2006-11-17 05:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by the_dutchess420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing's wrong with using a toy and letting him know that you'll be using one. now where you did go wrong was bringing to subject on as a threat towards him and in a way, yea.. he has a right to be upset. talk over it with him and just let him know what you really meant if you didn't mean for it to come out as something to upset or threat him.
2006-11-17 05:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Sex is supposed to be about giving, not getting.
You will never feel fulfilled in this relationship. You will probably never feel fulfilled, sexually, in any relationship because you don't value marriage and understand its benefits.
2006-11-17 06:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by Andrew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with it. If he were satisfying your needs you wouldn't have had to bring up the subject of a toy anyways.
2006-11-17 05:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope..I don't see anything wrong with what you did at all...especially as you expalined to him why. Besides...it's better to get a toy than get a guy on the side...wonder if he thought about that ;)
2006-11-17 05:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by DaniD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, buy your toys and have fun - just do it when he is not at home. He may have a "hangup" about having sex in his parents home, whether they are home or not.
2006-11-17 05:47:16 · answer #10 · answered by NAN G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! You are a woman with needs, and if he can't be a man and help you with those needs, you need to take batteries, I mean, matters into your own hands! Ask him to help you with using it, it may bring the spark back into the relationship.
2006-11-17 05:47:18 · answer #11 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋