Why do so many women think it's ok when their boyfriends hit them??

Question

It's so sad. I've met and seen and read about so many women who think it's perfectly acceptable when their boyfriends smack them and beat them up. I just can't get over it. IT'S NOT OK MEN TO BEAT UP WOMEN, OR VICE VERSA!!

to the people who mentioned that "women don't think it's ok, they just deal with it," i do agree, except for the woman for whom i posted this question. she thinks it's normal for her husband to beat her. she thinks it's just a part of being a wife. when i told her that it's wrong, she asked me if my boyfriend ever hit me. i said "certainly not!" and she was like, "come on, not even a little slap here and there?" and i said "NO! it's unacceptable!!"
so yeah, i thought that was amazing. and amazingly sad. :-(

Answer 1

I could write a book about this because I have been working in this field for 20 years. It is never okay to hit, shove, push, bite, slap, throw, punch, and so on. Also, abuse is nothing but having power and control over that person. Where they go, what they do, who their friends are, when they can see their family, all the way down to what to cook and when to have sex. It is not just about the actual hitting, etc.. but about verbal and psychological abuse that can be devastating in so many ways and can break a person down to where they feel worthless, ugly, stupid, among many others. The reason some women and men think it is okay is because their father, grandfather, brother, uncles, have been abusive for years and that is all they know. It is called the "Cycle of Violence" and until something happens like being arrested or pay some consequence for their actions it will not stop and sometimes then it doesn't. My advice is to go search the web and there are plenty of sites and print information for your friends and people they can talk with. Trust me this is very serious and only escalates over time. I have known many women who have been killed. Many laws have changed to protect the victim and to many resources are available now so they won't have to stay in any relationship like that. Ever heard the saying "if they hit you once it will happen again and again and again" no matter how many times they say how sorry they are. Also, if children are involved and grow up in this manner guess what they are going to do as adults? That is one way to break the cycle!!!!!

Answer 2

This question really hits home. I was in an abusive relationship. We dated when I was in High school, broke up for four years and then dated again. Well I ended up moving in with him and we got into this HUGE fight. He ended up throwing me into a wall and I packed all of my stuff up. However, I did move out but soon we were dating again. Now as I sit here with the guy Ive been dating for a while I look back and ask myself why I put up with it. The only reason is because I thought I loved him and I wanted to be with someone. However, if you do love them and they love you then you won't get hurt. I am much happier now and yes my bf and I do fight now but he has never thought about or even tried to hit me. As for the creep I no longer talk to him and I prefer it to stay that way. No girl should ever put up with that. It hurts for a while after moving out but you have to do it. You will get killed. They might apologize and say they will change but they dont.

Answer 3

I don't agree with hitting women, however...
for some strange reason women think its ok to hit or slap a man on a whim, and expect a man to just take it. In that case, you are asking for trouble... these women realize this and know that it was their fault to begin with. Other women also have a tendency to continually verbally attack a man and piss him off continually until he retaliates with physical force. Yes its wrong, but don't feel a bit of sympathy for them. The reason alot of women put up with physical abuse is because deep they believe they are the ones responsible.

Answer 4

I wouldn't go so far as to say that these woman accept this behavior as normal. Fear keeps them from exposing all of the truths about what is happening in the relationship. One can't be undoubtedly certain that the woman thinks this is ok: one can only speculate. Chances are, though, that they don't find it ok. They're just afraid to openly admit that it isn't for fear of reprisal.

Answer 5

No, it's not k for a lady to hit her boyfriend. When we believe of domestic violence, we typically believe of ladies being the sufferer and guys being the batterers, however many counselors who handle home violence problems will inform you that men are additionally domestic violence victims in lots of circumstances. This is domestic violence. In case you are in this main issue, you should generally seek counseling.

Answer 6

Um, how many boyfriends think it's ok when a boyfriend hits a woman? Not I!

Hitting another person is called assault. It's against the law and should NEVER be tolerated.

Answer 7

uh.... Its the women's fault. For as long as there are women that allow men to threat them that way this issue will continue.
Because women can have the nicest most caring man in the world right before them yet they will always fall for the bad guys

Answer 8

Of course it's not OK if a woman (or anybody for that matter) gets beaten up.
Why do some people accept though? Because they are afraid that they will be left if they don't accept maltreatment, and then they will feel lonely.

Answer 9

Those women have been taught by various events in their early life that a relationship like that is ok, that's just the way things are, or that they "deserve" it for some reason.

Answer 10

Because they either have no where to go and/or are too much dependable of that person that they cant do for themselves out in the world, because they have let the other control them to where they have been stripped of their own value as a person.